This Mother's Day Do Not Forget These Mothers

This Mother’s Day Do Not Forget These Mothers

Mothers Day is coming soon…

A day to celebrate mothers.
A day to acknowledge their contribution in our lives.
A day for mothers to bask in the care and affection of the family.
A day for children to show their love.
A lot of thought, effort and time goes into making the day special..

But what of the mom who has lost her child?
What of the mother who is grieving for the child and the future that they lost?
What of the mother who does not have a child to shower their love on her?
What of the bereaved mother or Vilomah (Sanskrit word for bereaved parents)

The mother who carried her child within her for days and then had to let them go
The mother who built dreams around her child, which came crashing down
The mother who lost the love of her life through no fault of her own
The mother who has lost her reason to live and happiness seems a distant memory

 

She eagerly awaits the phone calls that no longer come
The frequent text messages and funny videos that don’t come too
She relives the long walks, the long talks, the Sunday brunches, the midweek lunches
The surprise flowers, her favorite chocolates and special gifts

The denial, the guilt, the pain, the sorrow, the anger, the memories
Don’t really go away with the passage of time
People stop talking about the child and want you to snap out of it
That you have got to get out of this zone

Does a person want to be in a perpetual circle of sorrow and grief?
Does a person want to continue to mourn unendingly?
Does a person want to forget a vital part of their very soul and being?
The mother is just crying out in silent screams
She is just wanting for her love to be talked about
She just wants the assurance that you will not forget her child
The length of their journey on earth doesn’t matter.. She misses them dearly.. 

She had promised that she would protect and keep the child safe
She had promised that she would raise them up to the best of her ability
She had promised that she will weave a perfect family and a perfect future..


The broken promises cry out to her.
The silent nursery / room screeches in her ears.
The beautiful face is a constant wallpaper in her mind.
Her empty arms are not able to reach out to her child .
The loneliness is stifling her more and more each day.

This first Sunday of May, do say a little prayer for the bereaved moms
On International Bereaved Mothers Day, touch the life of just one Vilomah
Just be there for her, just lend a ear, just talk to her and let her talk..
That’s all she wants, that’s all she ever wanted..
For her child to be remembered and not forgotten and their memories honored… 

The world may not recognize her as a mother.
As her child is no longer here with her.
She may be broken but trying to put back together the pieces
She is still a mother at heart, in her mind and in her soul
Celebrate the day, celebrate her motherhood, celebrate her, celebrate her child..
She is a mother too…

International Bereaved Mother's Day

 

Learn more about International Bereavement Mother’s Day here.

All Those Times I Hated My Mom

All Those Times I Hated My Mom

Skating. Swimming. Cycling. And any time she would apply gram flour to my face.

I would raise hell!

Screaming, yelling. A 5-10 year old fearing for my life. Scared I would get hurt. Wondering why in the world is she putting me through this?

That and performing in front of a crowd.

She in her pride would want to show off her talented daughter’s dancing prowess. And her hesitant daughter would cry and cry because … (honestly, even I don’t know why I cried. I was a stage performer from the age 4 for goodness sake!)

Just a kid not understanding why in the world would we need any of those life skills?! To a kid it felt like I was against a huge mountain,  unrelenting. In my heart, I always knew she would not deter till I walked her path.

As Time Passed

In my 20s, my arguments with my mom became about things that just didn’t’ factor my then thought process. Superstitions. What I wear. What I weigh. My ambition. Learning to cook or do house hold chores. How I should be with people she cared about.

All the things that left me feeling unappreciated, misunderstood. We would argue vehemently, maybe shed a tear or two and then again get back to talking about everything under the sun.

You see, my mom has never been  just my mom. She is my best friend. She is the person who knows what is happening the minute after it happens. She and I have always shared a relationship of equals where she valued my opinion on a whole and it was amazing that she eventually always did trust my judgement. Many a times, she would argue about a point and then come over time come to see my way. Or show me the light to what she was talking about. It took a lot of convincing and heart ache, but we would always reach a mutual understanding.

I don’t know if it’s the Indian-ness in her or it’s a universal thing, but the many of the things she cared about were more society based or future based than what she herself ever really cared about. 

It is through those interactions with her that I realized that what people argue or get upset about are often just distractions from what’s really worrying them. In my case it was her worries about a good prospective husband and my future.

The root cause of most miscommunication is varied base desires. 

It is not always easy to understand your mother, but with age comes the luminescence of insight.

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After I Became A Mom

Every single time my child argues with me, I think back to all those times. The insistent crying, the yelling. The muttering of horrid things under my breath and then half an hour later regretting everything. An hour later promising myself I wouldn’t do it ever again to only do it all over again the next time. My brain a fog of my stubbornness.

We all have done it in a given phase of our lives. That’s what allows our mothers to proudly, and happily defend their grandchildren when we complain about them. “You were no different!”, they repeatedly chant.

When my child fights with me, in the heat of the moment, I get this huge lump in my throat of how and why in the world did I do this to another human being. “It’s all my roosters coming home to roost”, I regret. And when the moment passes, this one simple thought warms my heart, “In spite of it all, I was loved, my mom never once gave up and that is why I turned out okay.”


She continues to go through hell with me to empower me with the foundation that gave me the sense to make good choices, be respectful and today be the best mother and wife I can be. 

While we still don’t see eye to eye on many topics, specially not on how I arrange my kitchen cupboards, I still know she always has my back!

Mothers Day

A day each year where we can honor and celebrate our mothers and other motherly influences for the strong and wonderful people that they are. Today, though I want to take a moment  and say thank you for all those fights.

Copyright Aditi Wardhan Singh

 

As a mom, I now know how hard it is to keep going when your child is being difficult. Raising children takes tenacity, ferocious will and fighting every day when  you desire to just let go and sleep. It gets heart wrenching. Tears threaten to burn your eyes while you are feeling helpless in teaching them essential life skills. The guilt is tremendous, and yet, we know, if we give up on an important thing that needs to be taught, our child will eventually suffer.

Yielding to a child’s will is easy. Standing tall as an example 24/7 for love, for values, to show your child the right way That is what makes a mother amazing!

And mine is certainly extraordinary.

I certainly hope tomorrow when my children think of me, they know too that every purposeful battle I fought with them was for them. 

Which is why I wrote my book Strong Roots Have No Fear —

 

 

 

Origami Mini Heart Photo Frame- DIY Fridge Magnet

Origami Mini Heart Photo Frame- DIY Fridge Magnet

Origami Mini Heart Photo Frame is a perfect project for kids (and beginner grown-ups, too!). This makes a beautiful last minute gift for Mother’s day too! Haven’t got time to get your mom a gift? Just grab a paper and make this photo frame and gift her with a favorite pic in it, Voila! Addition to this adorable paper gift, paste a magnet in the back side of the frame and make it as a fridge magnet. Wouldn’t be a great idea to record your happy memories in the kitchen?

DETAILED TUTORIAL HERE 

Let’s get started with the supplies you need:
  • 12×12 cm square patterned paper or origami paper
  • Glue Gun
  • Magnet button
  • Mini square photo
Method:
  1. Take a 12×12 cm square paper and fold it all the side to create crease all over the paper.
  2. Now carefully fold the paper and make the photo frame as shown in the video.
  3. Once done, place a square size pic inside the frame.
  4. To make it as a fridge magnet, paste a button magnet in the back side of the frame.

That’s It! A cut photo frame plus a fridge magnet is ready! I am sure this simple yet creative craft will be a great addition to your craft adventures.

We would love to hear from you. Make this and show it off! Email it to us at contact@localhost or upload it on social media and tag us. @passionatemoms,@raisingworldchildren. We would feature the best ones on OUR platform for the world to see!

Origami Mini Heart Photo Frame - DIY Fridge Magnet

How To Make An Easy Mother's Day Card

How To Make An Easy Mother’s Day Card

Does your mom love Tea? Have you been looking for some creative card ideas to compliment your mom on this mother’s day? Then you’ve found the perfect happy Mother’s Day card for her! This tea homemade mothers day card may not feature a real tea, but it reminds her of how Tea-rrific she is.

DETAILED VIDEO HERE

 

Let’s get started with the supplies you need:
  • Egg carton
  • Cardstock Paper
  • Patterned paper
  • String
  • Marker
  • Paint
  • Glitter glue or Chenille stem
  • Glue gun
  • Scissors
Method:
  1. Take a cardstock paper and fold it in half to make a card. Now paste a patterned paper on the cardstock paper as shown.
  2. Cut the separate egg holder from the recyclable egg carton and cut the half to make a cup shape.
  3. Now paint the half cup with any desired color.
  4. Paste the half cup to the card using a glue gun.
  5. Now trace and cut a tea bag from a patterned shiny paper and paste it to the card as shown in the video.
  6. For the teacup handle, you can use either glitter glue or chenille stem.
  7. Finally, add your love note and gift your mom.

Yay! There is your beautiful yet creative homemade card. I am sure this will remain a special gift to your beloved mom.

Easy Mothers Day Card for Moms Who Love Their Tea or Coffee | Raising World Children

We would love to hear from you. Make this and show it off! Email it to us at contact@localhost or upload it on social media and tag us. @passionatemoms,@raisingworldchildren. We would feature the best ones on OUR platform for the world to see!

Mother's day canvas painting

How To Make A Kid’s DIY Canvas Painting For Mother’s Day Card

Waited until the last minute? Looking for a fun and easy card or keepsake for your kids to make for Mother’s Day?

Then you are in right place.

This sweet DIY canvas art is simple to make and great for children of all ages! With a simple rose stamping, you can make mom feel extra special with a beautiful bouquet canvas art for your mom or your grandmother. They make wonderful keepsakes and will be treasured for years to come! Let’s get started with the supplies you need.

FULL VIDEO TUTORIAL HERE:

Supplies Needed:
  • Lettuce head
  • Kids paint
  • Chenille stem
  • Satin ribbon
  • Any decorative embellishment
  • Glue
  • Scissor
  • Marker

Easy day card for all people who waited till the last minute. Make the mom in their life extra special.

Method:
  1. Pour some kids paint in a palette and dip the lettuce head on the color and make the rose stamps on the canvas.
  2. For the stem, use a chenille stem and glue it to the canvas. I used hot glue gun which is not advisable for kids to do alone. Adults can help this part.
  3. Create a bow from a satin ribbon and paste it to the stem. You can use any embellishment to decorate the bow.
  4. Add a personal touch to this bouquet art by making leaves from your little one’s thumbprint.
  5. Finally, add your love note.

Yay! A beautiful bouquet Canvas Art gift is ready to surprise your Mom or your Grandmother for this Mother’s day. A great alternative to an easy Mother’s Day card.  I am sure this will remain a special gift to them.

We would love to hear from you. Make this and show it off! Email it to us at contact@localhost or upload it on social media and tag us. @passionatemoms,@raisingworldchildren. We would feature the best ones on OUR platform for the world to see!

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Featured Image Popsicle craft

How To Make DIY Popsicle Stick Canvas Gift | Mother’s day Craft For Kids

This post is strictly for the kids and dads. If you are a Mother please look away! This is a perfect one of a kind craft that you could create and gift your Mom for this Mother’s day. This is an easy project for anyone to try but you need a little patience for the glue and paint to dry. Let’s get started with the supplies you need.

FULL VIDEO TUTORIAL HERE

Supplies Needed:
  • Popsicle sticks
  • Kids paint & Brush
  • Egg carton
  • Glue
  • Chenille stem
  • Construction paper
  • Scissors
  • Black Marker
  • Buttons
Method:
  1. Take a construction paper, apply some glue and start pasting the popsicle sticks adjacent to one another and wait until its dry.
  2. Now paint the popsicle canvas with your desired colors and let it dry. Mixing of any two colors gives a great look.
  3. Meanwhile cut the tiny compartments from the egg carton and make them into small flowers as shown in the video.
  4. Go creative and make your flowers colorful. Make sure the color you chose go well with the popsicle canvas.
  5. Once the flowers are dry paste the buttons in the center to make it look more appealing.
  6. For the flower pot and the sun, take a construction paper, trace and cut it out the shape.
  7. Now its time to decorate our canvas! A glue gun works best here (which is not advisable for kids as it is very hot. Make sure you have an adult to help with a glue gun.)
  8. Paste the egg carton flowers to the canvas on the top position as shown. For branches and leaves use chenille stem. At the bottom of the branches paste the pot and sun on the top as shown.
  9. Using a black marker write your love note to your mom. That’s It! your cute Mother’s Day Keepsake Gift is ready to surprise your mom.

Make a mother's day craft that makes the women in your life very happy | Raising World Children

I am sure your Mom will certainly love this wonderful DIY keepsake gift.

We would love to hear from you. Make this and show it off! Email it to us at contact@localhost or upload it on social media and tag us. @passionatemoms,@raisingworldchildren. We would feature the best ones on OUR platform for the world to see!