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Mothers Day is coming soon…
A day to celebrate mothers.
A day to acknowledge their contribution in our lives.
A day for mothers to bask in the care and affection of the family.
A day for children to show their love.
A lot of thought, effort and time goes into making the day special..
But what of the mom who has lost her child?
What of the mother who is grieving for the child and the future that they lost?
What of the mother who does not have a child to shower their love on her?
What of the bereaved mother or Vilomah (Sanskrit word for bereaved parents)
The mother who carried her child within her for days and then had to let them go
The mother who built dreams around her child, which came crashing down
The mother who lost the love of her life through no fault of her own
The mother who has lost her reason to live and happiness seems a distant memory
She eagerly awaits the phone calls that no longer come
The frequent text messages and funny videos that don’t come too
She relives the long walks, the long talks, the Sunday brunches, the midweek lunches
The surprise flowers, her favorite chocolates and special gifts
The denial, the guilt, the pain, the sorrow, the anger, the memories
Don’t really go away with the passage of time
People stop talking about the child and want you to snap out of it
That you have got to get out of this zone
Does a person want to be in a perpetual circle of sorrow and grief?
Does a person want to continue to mourn unendingly?
Does a person want to forget a vital part of their very soul and being?
The mother is just crying out in silent screams
She is just wanting for her love to be talked about
She just wants the assurance that you will not forget her child
The length of their journey on earth doesn’t matter.. She misses them dearly..
She had promised that she would protect and keep the child safe
She had promised that she would raise them up to the best of her ability
She had promised that she will weave a perfect family and a perfect future..
The broken promises cry out to her.
The silent nursery / room screeches in her ears.
The beautiful face is a constant wallpaper in her mind.
Her empty arms are not able to reach out to her child .
The loneliness is stifling her more and more each day.
This first Sunday of May, do say a little prayer for the bereaved moms
On International Bereaved Mothers Day, touch the life of just one Vilomah
Just be there for her, just lend a ear, just talk to her and let her talk..
That’s all she wants, that’s all she ever wanted..
For her child to be remembered and not forgotten and their memories honored…
The world may not recognize her as a mother.
As her child is no longer here with her.
She may be broken but trying to put back together the pieces
She is still a mother at heart, in her mind and in her soul
Celebrate the day, celebrate her motherhood, celebrate her, celebrate her child..
She is a mother too…
Learn more about International Bereavement Mother’s Day here.
8 Responses
Wow! That was so powerful and a life situation that isn’t talked about enough. Thank you for bringing it to light. I think giving a Mother’s Day gift to those mothers who have lost would be really sweet.
Thanks so much Lynn for your feedback..
Very well said. Always love my mom, she’s the first person I’m going to call and talk to with all that is going on with me. Our mothers love us unconditionally.
Thanks a lot Jen.. Yes, moms are the best!
What an important message – it’s so true that those can be forgotten but they absolutely deserve loving and understanding every day, especially Mother’s Day.
Thanks so much Stephanie.. Yes, they do deserve understanding..
It is true that on Mother’s day…little thought is give to the mothers who have lost. It is so sad. Thank you for bringing awareness!
Thanks so much Jackie.. My firstborn twin son passed away on the third day, ten years back.. Infant loss is almost a taboo subject, so yeah, I wanted to create a little awareness..