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Let’s talk about the talk.
This talk is one of the most important talks you will have with your child. Yes, I’m referring to ” SEX TALK“
We give so much importance on feeding healthy food and good thoughts , but have we thought of giving good and healthy sex education?
Physical,Mental and the least talked about SEXUAL HEALTH is important for overall development and its RESPONSIBILITY of every parent.
I am like most of you moms. I have always been this 90s child who changed channels when kissing scenes happened, never had a conversation about menstruation or sex with my parents, I even thought babies were formed when people kissed.
Lets see WHEN, WHERE, HOW and WHY to have the TALK.
**WHEN** :
My father was narrating a story to my 7 year old boy, where kunthi devi is blessed with a baby by sun god .Suddenly i heard my son say ” but i thought babies are formed when egg and sperm meets”. No, he’s not being over smart or trying to see a reaction from us.He told this with utmost matter of fact.
Upon my inquiry, he told me he read it in an anatomy book for children that I apparently had got for him.
So,when my son was 3-4 , he would often ask me “who put me in your belly”. I would say god .
At 5-6, I would say amma and appa loved each other, that’s how you and your brother were born.
Now at 7, armed with a proof when my child questioned me , as a mom i took this as an opportunity to explain the female body and male body with his own book and told him biologically. Have i told him about the actual sex act? NO. But will definitely do.When this question arises in another 2 years, I would not hesitate.
**WHERE**
If the child questions you about sex or anything related to his body at an inappropriate place. DO NOT shush him.This will give him signals that this is something absolutely wrong.Instead, let him know this can always be discussed at the privacy of home.
**HOW** :
How to explain your child as young as 7 or 8 about sex? There are so many books available for children.Teach it in simple biological terms.Only when you de-sexualize the sex act, the child will know it is something normal .
**WHY**
This is the most important.WHY on earth would I want to explain about sex, menstruation or puberty to my precious little child. Believe me, you are doing him/ her a favor.IF you do not do it,they will learn through improper sources (friends,internet)and end up being confused teenagers( just like us 90s kids).
LASTLY,
If you are a mom who thinks my child will figure out all this when the age comes. If you are one to divert or redirect the questions to dad.Think twice.Give them the correct foundation. He/ she is learning the most important function of a human from their own mom/ dad. Just like how you taught them rhymes/ math / science/ godly songs.
Their mind will tune it to accept this as something which is NATURAL and NORMAL.
Have you had the talk with your kids? How did it go?