What to Do When Self Love Eludes You

People talk about Self-Love as if you “should” just understand what it means.  When self-love eludes you, it occurs to you that while you understand the concept as it applies to others, you have not taken the time to consider how it applies to you.

Intellectually you have an understanding of what it means.  In fact, you could probably teach it to others.  Yet, you realize you have forgotten what it means to love yourself.  Perhaps, you’ve never known the feeling of self-love inside your own body.

How does this happen?

Many people live in cultures or families that teach us to love others before ourselves.  While that’s a beautiful thought, in theory, eventually we find ourselves in situations where we have no choice but to learn how to love ourselves.

As we become adults, we take on roles and identities that often move us away from self.  We become someone’s parent, someone’s spouse, someone’s employee, but where did YOU go?

If we have survived traumatic or abusive backgrounds, we may have learned that everyone else was more important than us.  We see ourselves as not enough, not valuable or unworthy of love.


Now that you are aware, begin to make small conscious choices to be gentle with yourself.  Gentle in how you speak, act and give to yourself.  Practice the art of receiving from others.  Mindfully give to yourself the love that you so freely give to others.

Tammy Coin is a Mind-Body Wellness Practitioner, Transformational Life & Spiritual Coach, Author, Teacher and Speaker. She holds sacred space & helps you locate the unhealed emotions leftover from Childhood Abuse & Trauma that block the door to your authentic self. She then partners with you, using the pieces of her own life, to empower, motivate and inspire you to fully uncover and step into your Soul Purpose. You can find Tammy Coin and The Doors of Wellness at http://www.thedoorsofwellness.com on Facebook http://www.facebook.com/thedoorsofwellness

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