Raising Girls Who Know Perfection is Self Defined

Today, as we sat having lunch together, my little one said to me.

“ Mom, you know what ? You are perfect. “

My heart welled with love and gratitude for those three words. “ You are perfect. “

My little girl made me, an often underappreciated, overworked, challenged at every step, mom of two feel like in that moment I was indeed perfect.

I know I have my flaws. I make mistakes. I don’t exercise enough. I am a tad too idealistic for today’s day and age and I overshare. I am me.

But I have never felt less than.

I was an only child for 10 years and my parents never ever made me feel that there was something missing. Even when my brother was born, I was secure in my place in my family.

With time though, it becomes obvious, it’s a man’s world specially in Indian culture. There are “rules” you are expected to live by. Serve, be submissive, understand your “place” in society. It’s not something that is said outright but in the little things by people around you.

Be Who You Are

But my little girl, should always know that you are loved! You are second to no one. You have the right to stand up for what you believe in. The right to eat when you what. The right to say what you want. The right to BE how you want. Laugh how you want. The right to go anywhere, do anything without the fear of being harassed, molested or put down.

Today, when you are little, you are the center of attention no matter where you go. Your teachers love you. We get you all that you need. You dance yourself silly and act like the diva you think you are. You say, “ Watch this mommy! “ after everything you do. You are stubborn and won’t eat something you don’t like. You enjoy everything that you love totally, un-apologetically.

I wish for you a lifetime of what you have now. A lifetime of smiles when you enter the room. Pampering wherever you go. A lifetime of confidence that whatever you are doing is worth being appreciated and applauded. A lifetime of knowing that you are special in every way !

Be a Feminist in The Real Sense

A  girl is not the same as a boy. She has unique strengths, many of which are different. That’s not to say, she cannot learn or grow to imbibe traits she desires. Feminism doesn’t mean girl and boys are exactly the same, it gives everyone the freedom to make the choices they deem right for themselves.

Don’t Judge Other Girls, Least of all Yourself

Let the fear of judgement of others around yourself go. One doesn’t ‘have to’ do or be anything she doesn’t want to. But that doesn’t mean she has the right belittle men or anyone else for that matter. Remember your way is right for you, but it may not be right for another.

Similarly, understand that you are going to be hardest on yourself. Often people aren’t even thinking about the thing you are obsessing over. Understand that you have to learn to forgive yourself.

Trust Your Gut

If you don’t know what to do in life, always be very very sure of what you don’t want. Trust your gut ! It won’t ever let you down. And if all else fails, remember what your mom and dad have taught you and fall back on the values you have grown up with.

Get Your Priorities Straight, without Remorse

Be passionate about life and the people you love. Care about them like the tiger you are. Know your priorities and go after them without remorse. Know that people will never understand what your life and choices is about and that is okay.

Always Choose To Be Drama-free

Time and again, you will for sure be sucked into the web of insecurities, jealousy, envy and gossip . Make sure to walk the path of truth and try your best to keep your mind above all the spectacle. A real crisis is the only time you should be anxious.

Don’t let relationships be the cause of turmoil.

Respect yourself enough to walk away when needed and cut ties when pushed.

 Be Mindful in Your Actions

With great power though, comes great responsibility as they say. You need to remember that with the freedom of choices you have, you need to make decisions that are healthy, compassionate, brave and right. To speak out when you see wrong doing. To stand up for those who cannot, specially yourself.

Know your strengths, understand your weaknesses, introspect often and be self aware. Above all, remember that the same applies to everyone. Every person goes through their share of pain and suffering before they find their bliss. So, never, ever try to compare your journey to another’s.

Remember, you are perfect as you are. Never feel less than, at any moment ever !

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