“Auntyji”, “Chums”, “Aurton wali problem”, “those days” …
It’s interesting how even today many cultures , specially South Asians will not say periods let alone talk about them.
They still carry around the stigma attached to periods and the myths surrounding them.
In olden times women in India were given those 4-7 days OFF so they could finally relax from all the house work. They were kept out of the kitchen, even house in some rural areas. Houses were joint family so they could afford to have ONE women out of circulation at the time.
Today, imagine if every month, I stayed in a room. Who would take care of my family, my obligations?
We as a culture have been split into TWO thoughts.
Those who now include girls even after they “mature”. Many households have girls participate in traditions. Plus with nuclear families, I personally would hate my daughter or ANY daughter be excluded on this sole criteria.
Others prefer you not for personal reasons or traditional values which of course be respected as well.
This, of course is more about personal choice but I bring forward this topic today to have that conversation with your daughters about their periods and respecting others’ choices. With kids as young as 10 hitting puberty, it’s important to teach them acceptance that school won’t.
We don’t want to raise a generation divided that goes , “Hawww! Why did you come ?? ‘ OR ” I will do what I want regardless of your personal beliefs.”
Also that most girls experience this universal situation in different ways each month. I lived in a girls hostel and it was incredible that not one person had the.exact same symptoms as myself.
Let’s teach them to be kind and understanding, specially welcoming to guests. Or it ostrcize someone on this basis.
Let’s talk to our daughters before the school so it’s not a HUGE surprise. Let’s not assume our daughters have “grown up” just because they body is. They are still little with a lot to comprehend. Let’s prepare them for a lifetime of pain.
I still remember my first day. A surprise to say the least. Just blank acceptance of 7 days of Horrible pain and discomfort going forward. I am so glad TODAY there ARE resources to support us during our hardest days of the months. Educate yourself to empower your girls. Boys too
Have you had the discussion with your kids ? Would you talk to your boys?