Powerful Life Lessons Celebrating Holi Teaches Every Kid

Powerful Life Lessons Holi Celebrations Teach Every Child

This festival of colors brings a tinge of happiness when people think the celebration of Holi. We often forget the many life lessons the Holi celebrations teach our children.

Growing up I played Holi a handful of times. Once when I was ten and we threw balloons and glasses full of water on passers by from the terrace of a cousin’s home. Once in Bhopal at age 11, when my cousin applied so much silver paint on me that it took my mom 2+ hours of rubbing before all the colors came off!

Then twice during college when my friends and I threw colors and eggs on each other. And I pretended to get drunk on Bhang Lassi and scared the living daylights out of my friends who had never seen a person high!

You find that people either love this festival or hate it, depending on how their childhood memories are with the celebration. If they were roughhoused with, they usually prefer to not play growing up either. Owing to my life as an immigrant I didn’t have many opportunities to be scarred!

Significance of Holi in North Indian Culture

Holi in Nothern India is celebrated to mark the advent  of spring with the flowers beginning to bloom. The many colors in the air reflect the bloom around you.

The meaning of Holi has it’s origins in two stories. And both carry a lot of meaning for most Hindu families, specially to strengthen the bond between couples. One is of the love of Radhna Krishna, whose love is eternal and renowned for being full of naughtiness. The other is the story of Prahlad whose demon father time and again forced him to renounce his love for God Vishnu and pray to him as God.

Celebrating Holi in My Home

This festival of love actually became a tradition after marriage as my husband and I religiously celebrate. This is perhaps one of the most no fuss celebrations as all you need is colors.

Kids like all things, added so much more meaning to our celebrations.

I remember vividly the first times my son and daughter applied color to my face. It was a feeling like no other!

 

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Since my son turned 2, every year our celebrations have only gotten grander and bigger with more of our friends being included as our family grew from two to four. The festival has only grown in splendor, laughter and grandeur.

I often have a potluck party at my home with my friends and we apply color to each other. If possible, we also serve the special drink called thandai (the non intoxicating version). The kids specially those who are not maybe North Indian get a kick out learning about this festival. Some also get scared but the results are always hilarious!

The night before Holi is Holika Dahan, where we are supposed to light the bon fire. It is hard to do that here in USA but in a few years, I hope to celebrate this aspect with a firepit.

Since the past three years we have been going to the local temple to celebrate with friends as well. We dance on Indian film music and enjoy the revelry. Throwing and applying colors on strangers who, on this day, treat us like their best friends.

 

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Life Lessons Holi Teaches In A Multicultural Environment 

Holi is celebrated around the world, not just on this day but all year round as “Color Run”. There are many reasons this beloved festival has grown on the people of the world. It is wonderful how most festivals provide unique opportunities to teach kids about life. 

It is celebrated today not just by North Indian Hindus but by everyone who enjoys celebrating life in all it’s colorful glory!

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GOODNESS AND FAITH ARE PARAMOUNT

I read the story of Prahlad every year. We watch videos and make sure the kids understand what both of these mean in today’s lives. The story might be mythological but when explained in today’s context, kids learn about how often bad influences affect us and we need to have faith in our own principals to carry us through. Life lessons holi teach us are very profound.

EVERYONE IS EQUAL 

I make sure to explain to my kids that the meaning of Holi is to show that once color is applied everyone is the same. The skin color of all becomes the same and we all are equal in all manners. Once you have children, specially this significance evolves also to one of acceptance and love.

ENVIRONMENTAL AWARENESS

The Holi festival as I mentioned has evolved. There was a time when people used to get really dirty throwing mud and eggs or worse but with time with repeated dos and don’ts discussed today everyone who celebrates does so in an environmentally healthy way.

This is a great time to teach kids about why using organic colors is important.

BE KIND TO ANIMALS

I tell them how Holi used to be celebrated where many people would hurt animals by applying color to them or throwing them in water. How important it is to not do the same and to always, always think of the consequences of your festivities on animals.

NO MEANS NO

Many people, specially in India, choose to remain locked indoors for everyone knows if you go out you are bound to end up with color on your face or wet clothes!

If someone doesn’t like to celebrate, you should not put color on them. This applies to many other aspects of life where someone might not want to indulge in something they enjoy. An important lesson in today’s world.

STRANGERS AREN’T ALL SCARY

The best part about Holi is this festival is everyone plays it with equal enthusiasm. Even if you go to the a place where it is celebrated not knowing anyone, you are greeted like a friend and get colored just as if people already knew you. Your faith in humanity gets restored with that much positive vibes going around.

It is a wonderful time to step out of your comfort zone. Under the watchful eyes of parents, many kids open up to having fun with people they have just met.

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GETTING MESSY IS FUN

My kids usually hate getting their hands dirty. They have gotten so used to using wipes that often things are icky. This day allows kids today, in the spin and span, sanitized environments to let lose and get messy.  It teaches them it is okay to get dirty. This is the only festival where the dirtier you are is reciprocal to the amount of fun you have had. 

After all, life is very messy and it is important to know when to enjoy the it and when to purge the mess!

SELF CARE IS IMPORTANT

There is a great amount of prep that goes into preparing to play Holi. . Wear sunglasses and shut your eyes whenever someone is applying color on you.  Oiling your hair or Wear old full sleeved and full length clothing to give your skin maximum protection from the colors.

Even when indulging in foods and the sweet milk drink, it is important to use moderation in everything you do.

EVERY LOVING RELATIONSHIP HAS ROOM FOR LAUGHTER

In Holi when you play pranks on your loved ones and friends, it is a great way to teach kids how to not take themselves and those they care about seriously. How not to get offended on silly little jokes and that there is always room for naughtiness and laughter in a loving relationship.

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DIY Corner, Label, Paperclip Bookmarks

How To Make DIY Cute Bookmarks

March 2nd is DrSeuss’s birthday! What better way to celebrate than to read? Let’s add fun to your kid’s reading journey by making these cute seuss themed bookmarks.

In this video, I am going to show you 3 different bookmark ideas. A cute monster corner bookmark, dog and cat label bookmarks and a simple paperclip button bookmark. Aren’t these just the cutest thing ever?

Let’s get started and have fun.

DETAILED VIDEO TUTORIAL HERE 

Monster Corner Bookmark:

Supplies Needed:

  • Construction paper
  • Glue Stick
  • Pen or pencil
  • Scissors

Method:

  1. Take a square piece of paper and fold it in half.
  2. Fold the left and right corner to the center point as shown in the video. Now unfold it.
  3. Again fold the back the sheet in half as shown.
  4. Now tuck in the left and right corners into the folded sheet space.
  5. Using a different color paper decorate the bookmark like a monster adding eyes and teeth.
  6. That’s It! A cute Book Eating Corner Monster Bookmark is ready!

Dog and Cat Label Bookmark:

Supplies Needed:

  • Cardstock paper
  • Color paper or any paper with pattern
  • Pencil
  • Ruler
  • Scissors
  • Glue Stick

Method:

  1. Trace an ear shape and a mouth shape in the color paper and cut it out.
  2. Cut the cardstock paper in the form of a label and paste the paper cuts on the label cardstock forming an animal face.
  3. Now make eyes for the animal by pasting two circular paper and draw eyes on them.
  4. Using the patterned color paper, cut three pieces as shown in the video and paste it which looks like a tie
  5. Now cut the excess cardstock and paste it over another cardstock paper as shown in the video.
  6. That’s It! Cute puppy and kitten label bookmarks are ready.

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Simple Paperclip Button Bookmark:

This is one is very simple and thanks to the glue gun which makes it more easier. “Glue guns are way too hot, it is better if parents can do the glue gun part for their kids”.

Supplies Needed:

  • Paperclips
  • Glue Gun
  • Button

Method:

  1. Apply glue on the backside of the button and paste the paper clip. Wait for a while for the glue to dry completely.
  2. That’s It! Your paperclip bookmark is ready in less than two minutes.

I am sure your kids would have a fun reading month! Ok, which one is your favorite?  I’d love to hear what your kids come up with to add to what I’ve created.

We would love to hear from you.

Make this and show it off! Email it to us at contact@localhost or upload it on social media and tag us. @passionatemoms,@raisingworldchildren. We would feature the best ones on OUR platform for the world to see!

Suja Dinesh Raising World childrenSuja Dinesh Raising World children Where Cultures Meet Parenting Sindhuja Kumar is a proud mom and a lifestyle blogger living in Connecticut, USA and origin from Tamilnadu, India. She is happily married and nothing excites her more than being a mom. She blogs to keep herself sane, more or less writing about positive parenting adventures, DIY Craft tutorials & scrumptious recipes that empowers every mom and woman to stay inspired and living an elegant life in a creative way. Check her work @ PassionateMoms.
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Baltic Amber: A Solution To Teething Without Pharmaceuticals

In a world that, in Western culture, has been largely dominated by a medical philosophy of quick-fix, immediate-gratification, symptom-masking pharmaceutical intervention, is there another way to help our kids more effectively experience developmental stages?

To recognize that sometimes pain leads to growth, yet to also offer easing of that pain to help them through? To recognize that they are stronger than they think, but that it is also a good thing to ask for help when they need it? Do all of these philosophical questions really have anything at all to do with teething?

Babies And Teething

Arguably, yes. Our children absorb their beliefs and approaches to the world from the very beginning, and how we teach them to overcome obstacles at tender young ages impacts how they will continue to approach difficulties in life. Teething is such a monumental obstacle for little ones that it is important as parents to determine to walk through it with our children; lending appropriate assistance without telling them they can’t handle it. It is here that our choices for symptom management matter.

If fear, convenience, and essentially putting them to sleep with pharmaceuticals so that they don’t feel the pain of the process is our response, it will become theirs as they grow, as well. If, however, compassion, assistance, and pain management that enables them to continue to play, learn, and grow, is our response, they will learn that pain is not their master and does not need to steal their days away. While it may not be fun, it is also not something that must be escaped at all cost.

What then, are the non-pharmaceutical options for a parent with a teething child and all that entails? How do we soothe their swollen, angry gum tissues, keep their drooling – caused by those swollen tissues – to a minimum, and alleviate the pain that has them crying for comfort?

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Solutions to Teething

The age-old answer has simply been chew toys. From knotted rags to chilled plastics, aching little ones have been offered the relief of counter-pressure to ease them through this stage. Recently, however, another centuries-old remedy for arthritis has been found to have great effectiveness in soothing teething symptoms while allowing the child to remain alert and happy throughout the day, and therefore able to maintain somewhat normal sleeping routines at night.

That Old-World European remedy: Baltic Amber. This seemingly simple, naturally-occurring tree resin, found exclusively in Estonia, Latvia, and Lithuania, holds complex properties that are useful to the process of teething. When this amber is warmed, it releases a substance called “succinic acid.” Succinic acid – which is also found in small quantities in the human body – is an effective analgesic (pain reliever) and anti-inflammatory (swelling reducer).

Because it is already present in the body, there is no difficulty with processing it; the body knows exactly how to use the bloodstream to deliver it to the affected parts, and any excess is promptly eliminated. There is no harmful build-up, no overdose risk, no side-effects, and no drug interactions. The soothing effects are easily and naturally applied, and the teething child is free to continue about his/her day.

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The delivery system for this approach to pain and inflammation relief is as drama-free as the succinic acid’s effects. No forcing liquid or pills into a child who wants no part of it. Because the succinic acid is released from the Baltic amber by warmth, the Baltic amber is fashioned into a teething necklace of smooth, individually-knotted beads worn against baby’s skin under their clothing. Check out  Baltic Amber teething necklaces – www.balticwonder.com/

This not only warms the amber and allows the skin to absorb the released healing acid, it also keeps the necklace out of baby’s notice and grasp. As long as the necklace is worn, the soothing effects are delivered. Almost completely without calling baby’s attention, angry gums will be soothed, drooling will reduce, pain will diminish. Make sure to not go for fake necklaces.

Suddenly a painful transitional process will become an endurable, minimally-invasive stage of growth with exciting new adventures to celebrate at the end of it.

As parents, it is our job to not only ease our children’s pain, but also to train them in how to grow throughout life. Our choices in every challenge will help to shape their responses to the challenges they will face. Baltic amber offers an opportunity to meet the challenge of teething with determination and compassion, rather than fear and escapism.

Jenn Sanders currently works as a marketing assistant at Baltic Wonder, a company that is dedicated to the health and well-being of infants. Outside of work, she enjoys spending time with her family and outdoor adventures.

How To Help Your Child Adapt To Hearing Aids

How To Help Your Child Adapt To Hearing Aids

When a child gets hearing aids it is a big step that can be a difficult transition. Remembering to put them in, feeling confident around peers, and feeling pride in who they are can all be a new challenge for your child. Even with all of the resources available, it is important to take steps at home to empower your child.

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Start Early

Make an effort to get your child excited about her new hearing aids before she gets them. Talk about how much fun she’ll have when she can hear her friends or her favorite cartoons. Make hearing aids sound exciting and useful. Always answer your child’s hearing aid questions honestly, but be as positive as possible.

Choosing an audiologist who frequently works with children helps, as well. These specialists are practiced at performing hearing tests, making ear molds and performing other tasks in a way that won’t upset your little one.

Set a Schedule

At first, wearing hearing aids may feel foreign and uncomfortable. You child’s instinct will be to remove the offending item, especially if he is too young to understand why his hearing aid is important. To help him adjust, set a schedule and put the hearing aid on him at the same time every day. If he pulls it off, be gentle but firm about putting it back on.

If your child is old enough, negotiate a schedule that allows for breaks. You may, for example, agree that the hearing aid must stay on during school hours but may be removed for an hour or two after school.

Move Slowly

Remember that your child has been hearing only a muted version of the world, even while in noisy places. She needs time to adjust to not only the feel of the hearing aid but to the sensory input it provides. Move slowly when getting her used to loud environments, as even quiet ones may seem loud to her. Start in a quiet place with minimal noises and work the child up to busier environments a bit at a time.

Remember Your Audiologist

Different children may encounter different obstacles when adjusting to a hearing aid. If yours is struggling and you’re unsure how best to help, call your audiologist. You probably never attempted to get a child to wear a hearing aid before, but your audiologist has, like Whisper Hearing Centers.

Don’t hesitate to turn to the professionals if you find yourself struggling. A hearing aid doesn’t help anyone if it isn’t worn, so use all of the resources available to you when helping your child adjust.

While getting your child used to her new hearing aid, remember to maintain a sense of normalcy. Keep your usual schedule and allow your child to do all of the things he normally does. Soon putting on the hearing aid will simply become part of the routine.

With a little patience and perseverance, your child will get so comfortable with his hearing aid that he will forget it’s even there.

What tips would you add to this? Leave in comments below so other parents can learn how to assist the transition. 

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Emma Sturgis is a freelance writer currently living in Boston, MA. She writes most often on education and business. To see more from Emma, say hi on Twitter @EmmaSturgis2
Growing Up A Vegetarian In A Meat Eating Family

Growing Up A Vegetarian In A Meat Eating Family

As a young child, I ate what the rest of my family ate which included meat. I didn’t love meat, but I ate as my family ate; until one day when I was told what meat really was and from that point on, I began growing vegetarian in a meat-eating family.

Some kids go through a shock phase when they realize meat is animal muscle, and most just shrug it off and go on eating it. Other kids may be slow to revisit eating meat once they know, and then there are kids like me who struggled to push meat into their mouths after finding out how it got to the table.

Why I Became Vegetarian

I can tell you the exact moment I fully realized what meat was and where it came from. I was in fifth grade and we had friends over to the house. We were having ground beef tacos and I casually asked what meat was to no one in particular.

My mom’s friend looked at me incredulously. “Why it’s animal muscle,” she said with a nod of her head.

My mother looked up from her mixing bowl on the counter and sharply said, “Don’t tell her that!” She gave her friend the look.

I shrugged because I didn’t know what else to do. They thought I was fine with it.

But, I wasn’t fine.

As a child, from that point on, eating meat was a giant struggle for me. My feeling was that if I ate the animal’s muscle, I was stealing from it. I didn’t want to steal its life, I loved animals too much to do that.

The other contributing factor to my emerging vegetarianism was my issues with the texture of meat, especially pork and even ground beef.

I attempted, very poorly, to eat meat for the next three years, but became a full vegetarian in eighth grade. It was a slow progression for me and pork was the first to go, beef next, then chicken, then turkey, and lastly, I gave up fish.

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My Journey Growing Vegetarian in a Meat Eating Family

It was not easy being a child vegetarian in a meat-eating family. My dad would ask me at every dinner meal for many years if I wanted the meat. He couldn’t accept my vegetarianism.

He continued to pass the meat platter to me, but I always declined it!

My mother on the other hand reluctantly accepted my meatless diet, but as a mom and a nurse, she struggled with fears that I would not get enough protein.

My mother would frequently voice her concerns about what to make for me. I had committed her to the mom life sentence of a short-order cook with my dietary change, so I bought her a skinny paperback vegetarian cookbook. I was so proud of my plan because I knew it would relieve some stress for her by giving her some ideas of what to make for me.

Dairy products were my savior as a child. I felt they were okay to eat because they weren’t a part of the animal, but a by-product. I was ok with that so I became a full-fledged lacto-ovo vegetarian by consuming dairy products.

My dad was always bothered by my second glass of milk at dinner and I always heard my mom shush him as I headed to the fridge to fill up my cup mid-meal. She knew I needed protein and she didn’t want me to be malnourished, so she encouraged my milk drinking.

It was hard for me as a child to eat something different than everyone else around me. I grew up in the Midwest where our town was surrounded by farms. Not eating meat was a huge culture deviation, and I was the unlucky deviant having to explain myself to everyone around me. It was unheard of to not take the meat as most people viewed it as the only important part of the meal and the rest was fluff.

The fluff was exactly what I wanted of the meal; I wanted the vegetables, the bread, the nuts, the fruit, the eggs, and the cheese. I didn’t like the texture of tofu so that was not an option for me, plus I didn’t love beans. They weren’t the right texture for me either.

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Eating Out

Going out to eat was a challenge and going to parties was difficult too because meat consumption was integral to the community. We all talk about what we will eat and when we will eat it. Food is mega important to all cultures and unfortunately, I was the outcast in my childhood food culture, and a voluntary one at that.

Everyone seemed obsessed with what I would eat all the time. It was a constant topic of conversation that seemed unnecessary to me and I didn’t like the limelight. No one ever made a big deal about someone not eating the lettuce or potato salad, but my not eating the burger at grilling parties, well, that needed to be talked about, commented on, and sometimes even ridiculed.

As a child, I never judged the meat-eaters, so I constantly wondered why they judged me.

Being treated that way taught me not to judge others and to respect that everyone has the right to make their own choices. I developed a deep respect for freedom of choice which also taught me tolerance.

My mother never forced me to eat meat, which I was always thankful for, so I’ve come to parent my own children the same way. I let them choose and offer healthy alternatives if they don’t want a part of the meal.

As an adult, I’m still the one who is different because most people in my region do eat meat. However, I’ve learned so many ways to compensate, modify, and survive that it has become normal to me to be different.

Mine is not a deviant way of life; it is my norm. 

Are you are vegetarian? What are your struggles? 

About my cookbook:

I married a man who eats meat and my children eat meat, so I began making recipes I call hybrid recipes where there is a meatless and a meat-containing portion to the meal to feed us all from one recipe. It’s easy, it’s just a matter of being mindful while cooking.

I began to realize there are more families like mine out in the world who are composed of members with different diets. This brought me to create my cookbook to help families like mine who are composed of vegetarians and meat-eaters. I also wrote the book to help parents of children who either are vegetarian or who are considering vegetarianism. I sincerely hope my book helps families have more enjoyable and smoother meals together.

 

 

Julie Hoag is a writer and blogger. She is a wife and mother with a history working as an RN prior to being a SAHM. She is honored to be published on the Huffington Post, Her View From Home, Scary Mommy, The Mighty, Perfection Pending, Manifest Station, Sammiches & Psych Meds, and more in addition to her own blog juliehoagwriter, where she writes about family/motherhood/kids, recipes, family travel, DIY, and pets.

 

How To Talk to Kids About Dangers At School

How To Talk to Kids About Dangers At School

Thanks to the existing environment, there has become a constant fear among parents of what to tell their kids and how much. Every topic seems to be far reaching and hard to discuss.

This is an unexpected time we have come to. From being a parent who talks to their kid about every aspect of life to not knowing what to say. My 7 year old son’s school recently had a lock down incident. No one was  in danger according to school but the world lock-down itself sends chills down us parents’ spines.

Our local high school’s pep rally was cancelled because some kid decided to threaten some others on social media. Many kids did not go to school for fear of danger.

“What do you tell kids when they say that they are scared to go to school? “, Jasmine Turner of Nbc12 news channel asked me.

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My Answer

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For all kids, first ask them what they know. ? Start by asking what your child/teen already has heard about the events from the media and from friends. Listen carefully; try to figure out what he or she knows or believes. Even if you yourself do not discuss with the kids, often they will have friends who tell them what is going on. Be aware of what your child knows and how they are processing the information.

As your child explains, listen for misinformation, misconceptions, and underlying fears or concerns. Gently correct misconceptions and wrong notions. 

“What You Are Feeling Is Real”

No matter what the emotion, you need to accept it. And work through it. Talk about it. Take the time to process it. Even if it is just fear. You cannot deny that we need to accept that the fear of being in danger is a very personal and real fear and every kid can feel it. Not just you, every child in the school feels the same feelings at different times. And every parent of that child feels the same. It’s okay to be scared.

“You Cannot Let Fear Stop You” 

Fear can have the capacity of paralyzing you. You have to overcome this anxiety. We cannot let the fear of the unknown ruin our today or the possibility that today brings for us. Every moment, every step holds an unknown. But most of our lives is in our hands.

“If You See Something If You Say Something”

The times have changed from tattling to standing up for what is right. You can provide important information that may prevent harm either directly or anonymously by telling a trusted adult what you know or hear.

If you see a friend being bullied or a kid left behind (metaphorically), stand by them. Be there for someone who has no one. If you notice someone who you feel might need professional help, or that makes you uncomfortable or fearful tell your teachers or parents. If you see someone threatening something on social media, bring it to the attention of an adult.

“Be Responsible On Social Media”

When you share something online, it is there for everyone to see. And can be traced back to you. It is not just fun. There are certain guidelines you should follow when posting something online and remember that there are serous consequences to saying or posting offensive material online. Cyber bullying is hurtful. Your connections online are real people with real feelings. When you put hurtful things out there remember they not just affect those reading them, but also those around them who care for them.

“Be more kind now than ever before” 

One of the main reasons of these happenings right now is because there are kids out there who do not feel loved. The world needs love. All most people need ever is to know they are cared for and appreciated. That is sorely lacking in the world today and it is more important now than ever to bring our A game forward in being generous with our kindness and filling others’ buckets.

“Always keep gratitude in your heart”

Let’s take the time to go over everything that we are thankful for today. Appreciation for what we have, helps us take stock of what all we have achieved and all those we hold dear.

“Let’s review safety precautions” 

Here I suggest reading our previously published piece on how to empower kids against tragedy. Also, ensure you ask them what they have learned at school.

Often school procedure has many simple yet effective techniques that can be applied at home or outside home/school. This also helps re iterate your belief in the school system and it’s safety. Kids, after all foremost need to believe the school is a safe haven after all.

A few side notes to the above would be

  • As always, encourage questions and keep the lines of communication open. Make time to talk about these difficult issues as well.
  • Limit Television viewing of the such tragic experiences.
  • Talk about the consequences of use of guns and violence in general.
  • Be a positive role model for the younger generation to follow.
  • Stick to your normal routine. Do not let fear seep into your life.
  • Adults, pay attention to the cues your children give you!

 

Aditi Wardhan Singh is a mom of two, living it up in Richmond Virginia in USA. Raised in Kuwait, being Indian by birth she has often felt out of place. A computer engineer by profession, she is now a freelance writer and entrepreneur having founded Raising World Children. Impromptu dance parties with her little one are her ultimate picker upper. She provides tools to open minded parents to empower their children to raise positive, gracious, global thought leaders. She currently writes for the HuffingtonPost, Thrive Global, RMB and is author in “When You Are Done Expecting ”

DIY craft for Valentines day

How To Make DIY Valentine Monster And Pom Pom Love Bug

Are you looking for a Valentines day kid’s craft that you could make together?  Then you are in luck! The below tutorial on how to make a ” Valentine Monster”  and a “Pom Pom Love Bug”  with heart antennas are great for kids. They would just love the idea of creating something and they can play with at home.

Caution: I am sure you will have a love bug infestation! I wonder what kind of exterminator you call for that.

Ready to make some love bugs of your own? Let’s get started!

DETAILED VIDEO TUTORIAL HERE 

 

 

Valentine Monster:

Supplies Needed:

  • Woolen yarn
  • 4×5 Inches cardboard paper( I just cut mine from a Cheerios box)
  • Googly eyes
  • Egg carton (For making the bug stand still)
  • Hot glue or Craft glue (Takes a bit more time to dry)
  • Heart shaped Foam sheets
  • Pipe cleaners or chenille stem
  • Scissors


Method:

  1. Take the cardboard piece and wrap the woolen yarn around several times to make a thick layer. Make a tight knot and remove the cardboard carefully.
  2. Now opposite to the knot cut the yarn as shown in the video. Level it by cutting the extras on the edges.
  3. Take an egg carton and cut the single egg holder, paste the yarn bundle over the egg carton.
  4. Now starts the easy part. Just paste the heart shaped stickers and make a face. Paste googly eyes over the foam sheet. You can add a mouth if you want but it’s totally optional.
  5. Take a 3-4 inch chenille stem folded in half for the antenna. Glue the chenille stem onto the top of the monster.
  6. Finally, paste the mini foam hearts onto the stem. Your Valentine monster is ready!

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Pom Pom Love Bug:

Supplies Needed:

  • Mini ready made Pom poms (available at the craft stores).
  • Googly eyes
  • Hot glue or Craft glue (Takes a bit more time to dry)
  • Foam heart shapes
  • Pipe cleaners or Chenille stem
  • Scissors
  • Construction Paper

Method:

  1. For this project, I used red and black mini pom poms. Paste the two pom poms together.
  2. Now paste the googly eyes and the bent chenille stem as an antenna.
  3. Trace a mini heart on a cardstock paper and cut it out. Glue the bug over the cardstock paper to make it stand still.
  4. Finally, paste the mini foam hearts onto the stem. Your Pom Pom Love Bug is ready!

I am sure your kids would have a bug blast! Ok, which one is your favorite?  Valentine monster or Love bug? I’d love to hear what your kids come up with to add to what I’ve created.

We would love to hear from you.

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  Suja Dinesh Raising World children Where Cultures Meet Parenting  Sindhuja Kumar is a proud mom and a lifestyle blogger living in Connecticut, USA and origin from Tamilnadu, India. She is happily married and nothing excites her more than being a mom. She blogs to keep herself sane, more or less writing about positive parenting adventures, DIY Craft tutorials & scrumptious recipes that empowers every mom and woman to stay inspired and living an elegant life in a creative way. Check her work @ PassionateMoms.

 

 

School Shootings : Stop The Negligence Already!

School Shootings : Stop The Negligence Already!

Yet another school shooting, scrolling through the news lying next to my peacefully sleeping baby I read this horrific news! 

A chill ran down my spine and I felt the pain that I had never felt before for the parents who lost their precious children. I could feel holding my baby close to myself as if trying to secure him from an evil that may jump out of this news piece.

Growing up I was taught that school is my second home. Like my home I not only learn new things at school but also can feel completely safe. Reading through this news and all the other news about school shootings or stabbing be it US, or India or Pakistan or any other country for that matter has made me realize, what I was taught, what I always believed in is not true anymore.

A school might have been safe for me but it is not a safe haven for my child anymore.

Right before I started writing this article I was listening to the interview of a mother who lost her 14 year old daughter in the Parkland Florida school shootout. She was crying and pleading to the president to make the guns rule stricter in US and making schools more secure for children.

She said she spent last 2 hours preparing for the funeral of her beloved daughter. Daughter who she gave birth to, daughter she nurtured for 14 years, daughter she loved to pieces, daughter who will never come back again.

Get To The Root of The School Shootings

Since 2010 there have been 146 different incidents of gun use within school premises alone in US, some of them were open fires and included not only students but teachers too. Out of these 146, 8 incidents have been notified only in 2018 and we are sitting in February the entire year is left to be seen.

Everyone seems to ask the same question why doesn’t government of the strongest country on this planet passes a simple law so that guns do not reach just anybody and everybody. And everyone also knows the answer to the same question that is NRA’s spending power in every election campaign is enormous. Every government throughout the world is overpowered by some or the lobby which is understandable as money matters but is it more important than lives of our little children.

Every time I think of the shootings inside a school campus the first thing that comes to mind is what if it was someone I knew what if it was someone of my own, and that makes me wonder have our politicians become so ruthless that they have lost the power of questioning, what if?

Keeping this thought aside I also tend to wonder that America being the strongest economy of the world doesn’t spend enough money to secure the school campuses, why? If the gun lobby is strong enough and it’s not easy to pass a law against it than that same gun lobby that spends millions towards helping a person winning an election or voting against a bill can be forced to secure the school and college campuses.

But than I thought to myself would that solve the issue, the answer was obvious ‘NO’. The constitution exists to empower the government to give a better life to a country’s citizens not a better life to a select few. All because a select few have spent money to help you win the election does not give you or them a right to play with the lives of those who believed in you and voted for you expecting better life for themselves. The basis of The constitution is right to life, how can monetary benefit take that away.

What makes this tragedy exponentially sad is that it is born of negligence and ignorance.

No one is asking the government to shut down gun manufacturers. 

The only demand everyone has, every concerned parent has to please make sales of guns more responsible, make  and make school campuses safer by putting up adequate measures. For strict background and mental health checks. 

Not only our children deserve the best education but also safe education. Please stop sacrificing our innocent children for a few bucks.

We talk about our kids being empowered but first and foremost it is our job as a collective society of adults to protect them. We cannot control the world, but we can take measures to make sure our children are safe. This choice is being taken away from parents as guns are made easy to get. And automatic guns at that!

Children are our future, they are precious. I pray for all the families who lost their children and hope this time at least few from the political class would have a change of heart and wonder ‘what if that was my child in that school…?’

What is causing school shootings? Taking part in the school shootings debate. Asking for strict background checks for guns.

 Vinni Mishra Raising World Children Vinni Mishra is a corporate professional presently residing in Glen Allen, Virginia. She originally belongs to Jaipur, Rajasthan (India). She completed her masters degree in geography from Rajasthan University. She started her career as a corporate professional pretty early around the age of 18 with GE Capital and was until very recently working with Suntrust Mortgage in Glen Allen. She is an expectant mother and is enjoying her time off from work awaiting the new member to her family. She has a passion for writing and her writing is influenced by the rich culture of Rajasthan which is famous for its traditions and heritage that have been passed along generations.
7 Ways To Make Your Teenager Money Smart

7 Ways To Make Your Teenager Money Smart

You don’t want your teens to make the same mistakes you did with money?

I can relate. I was horrible with money growing up and I don’t want my children to make similar mistakes.

That’s why it falls on us parents to teach our children to be financially responsible people. I firmly believe that you lay the foundation of good sense with money early. Then it blooms for real when your children become teenagers.

Teaching teens about money and finances aren’t very different from teaching adults about the same subject. However, age does play a major part, in certain aspects. For instance, the amount of money they have.

In this article, I go through the seven things I think are most important when it comes to raising financially responsible teens.

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  1. Teach Them Financial Literacy Early

The earlier you can start, the better, is my philosophy. Let me make a parallel, our daughter is 2 and a half years old. She’s talking quite a lot. In three languages.

My wife is from Catalonia, so our daughter has that as a second mother tongue. She speaks Swedish primarily, since that’s where we live, and we also use English a lot at home to help make that easier for her later on too.

Why did I tell that then, since it doesn’t relate to money at all, you might ask? Apart from me being so proud of my daughter I also want to make a point.

We began speaking to her in different languages when she was born. She had it with her from the start. It comes to her much easier now because of that.

I don’t mean that you should sit down with your six-month-old child and try to make a budget.

But I do mean that you should start to talk about money as soon as your child seems to show an interest. I generally think it’s a good idea to involve your children in the family’s finances as soon as it’s possible too.

It could be that you invite your children to the weekly budget meeting. Eat something, talk about money and your finances. Make it fun. It’s hard to say how old your kid should be when you do this since it’s also very connected to interest.

Involving your children like this is mainly to give an idea of finances on a slightly larger scale than the child’s own finances. This could also, as a benefit, lead to the child participating more in the family affairs as a whole.

The plan is that the conversations and actions about money and finances lead to an internalized idea in your child. If you hit up Google on the word internalization, you get Wikipedia’s explanation:

[..] internalization describes the psychological outcome of a conscious mind reasoning about a specific subject; the subject is internalized, and the consideration of the subject is internal.

Meaning, that your child will then have an internal consideration of the subject. Or, a feeling of what’s “good and bad” about the choices.

This is a theoretical practice of how to teach your children about finances. Of course, there are more practical tools and ideas too.

  1. Work For The Money

There are people who say that you can never value things you get for free. Even though I don’t agree with this wholeheartedly, I do believe there’s truth in that statement.

Especially when it comes to free money.

I’m all for helping your children with getting some spending money, but I don’t believe in an allowance without any effort on their part.

That said though, I don’t want you to think that I’m preaching that you should pay your children to help around the house.

I generally say that a family should function as a small business where everyone does their part. Because of this, you get an allowance. Since you do what’s expected of you. Much like it is with a salary.

You can let your children help around the house with things early on and in return give them some money each week or month.

When they get older, encourage them to get an actual job. It’s a different kind of responsibility to work for someone outside the family.

And it feels different to get an actual paycheck instead of an allowance.

  1. Make Them Live On What They Make

We’re suckers as parents. Because we love our children and we want what’s best for them at all times.

When our children come and ask us for more money, because they’ve accidentally spent their money on the latest hyped thing, like a golden fidget spinner, we want to help them. It’s instinct.

I’m asking you to resist that instinct. You’ll feel evil and harsh. I promise.

But you want to raise an independent kid that doesn’t need to borrow money at the end of every month. Oh, and who never returns the borrowed money.

Teach your children that they have to learn to live off the money they make. If that’s an allowance or a salary doesn’t matter. This is to teach the basic mindset of economizing.

It’s my personal belief that if you give free money to your children all the time, they might think that it’s ok to also get “free” money from other places. Like credit cards.

The best way to learn to economize with your money is by budgeting.

  1. Budget To Make It Last

It feels like that a budget is the go-to multitool for personal finances. It works for everything.

That’s not true though, but a budget is a great tool that can, in fact, help in different problematic situations with finances. It’s also easy to use and set up.

In its simplest form, you only need a pen and a paper. And a ruler if you want to be fancy.

But nowadays, when do teens use pen and paper? Use a spreadsheet instead and make them feel like we’re in the right century at least.

Most teens don’t know how to set up a budget and what to consider when they do. So it falls on you, as a parent to help them. Teach them the basics of what a budget is and how they should think about budgeting.

Help them set up the categories and the basics of tracking the money. But let them do the continuous work with their budget.

If you don’t know how to set up a budget, there are places on the internet that teach you how to budget for free. Like my ecourse in budgeting, for instance.

I always argue that for a budget to be successful, all money that comes in needs to be accounted for in the budget. There shouldn’t be any money that isn’t assigned to a place in the budget.

Your teen shouldn’t have any “free-floating” money in their finances. Free floating will lead to free spending.

Avoid that.


  1. Save What You Have Left

As your teen gets their budget set up, listing all the expenses and money they want to spend on fun stuff, they will see how much they have left each month.

As you’ve done the groundwork when your child was growing up, as teens, they want to save the money. Right?

The free-floating money from the previous headline comes into play here. If your teen had more money coming in than he or she had going out when you set up the budget, put it in savings.

It doesn’t matter how much money it is. Even if it’s a dollar, it’s better to save it than to spend it on things that you don’t need.

  1. Save With a Purpose

We all know how hard it can be to save only for the sake of saving. I know that I didn’t understand the purpose of that when I was growing up.

I once set a goal to save for a speedway motorcycle, though, since I wanted to try that as a teen. I got some money saved up then I understood that speedway wasn’t for me. So, I robbed my piggy bank and use the money for useless stuff.

What I mean with saving with a purpose is to have goals. If you’re familiar with goal setting, you might understand what the previous paragraph was about too.

When your teen sets a goal for their savings, or finances as a whole, help them with making them realistic.

In fact, there’s a popular goal-setting strategy called SMART-goals. You might have heard of it, but I will explain it here.

SMART is an acronym of:

Specific

Measurable

Attainable

Realistic

Timely

Most of those are self-explanatory but let’s look at it a bit more anyway. Let’s say your teen wants to save money for a car. That’s not very specific. Decide what model, color, and year.

To make that measurable, you need to find a price for a car like that. The cost is the measure of how much to save.

Is it a brand new Tesla your teen wants to get? Then that might not be very attainable (at least not within a reasonable time) unless he or she makes loads of money. It might not, because of the same reason, be realistic either.

A used Honda Civic from 2005 on the other hand, for instance, might be more doable.

Timely means to set a time when to achieve the goal. Calculate how much your teen can save each month, divide the price by that and you’ll have a ballpark time frame.

Setting goals in finances are always a good practice since it will help you save with intention. This will also be something that helps your teen later in life.

Download our Our Goal Setting Template Here.

  1. Bonus Round: Invest

Since you’re raising such money-smart children, they will also learn the power of investing and compound interest. Because of that, they will want to start investing early on.

I will try to explain compound interest quickly here, but it will be an explanation that’s lacking.

The idea of compound interest is to get interest on your interest. You get this kind of interest since you reinvest the interest and earn interest on that as well. Does that make sense? It means you make your money work for you, instead of you working for it.

The first years of investment can be quite slow, but once it picks up pace, it’s like the snowball effect. This means that if your teen starts investing early, they can end up rather rich later on.

If you want a more technical and deep explanation of compound interest, I suggest Investopedias article on it.

There are also cool compound interest calculators you can use for free on the internet to see what effects it can have.

You might not be comfortable with giving your teen advice on how to invest. There are professionals that can help you with this though and it might be a good idea to talk to a professional financial advisor.

How do you teach Your children?

There are many ways to teach children and teens about money and finances to make them money smart later in life. How do you do it, what is your philosophy?

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  Anders is a Swede with a love for personal finances, but not only the money part. He believes in a balance in all areas of life and that’s why his writing brushes on our society’s and our mind’s effect on our financial situation.
DIY Paper Chinese Lantern

How To Make DIY Chinese Paper Lantern- Chinese New Year Crafts

Chinese lanterns are so easy and fun to make that they often associated with festivals. These paper lanterns are quite popular to make for Chinese New Year. This is such a great project for kids who are starting to master the use of scissors! So, why not you could make these paper lanterns with your kids and teach them a bit about Chinese culture? Let’s get started with the step by step tutorial.

VIDEO TUTORIAL AVAILABLE 

Supplies Needed:
  • Cardstock paper
  • Scissors
  • Pencil
  • Ruler
  • Glue gun or school glue
  • Washi Tape or any color paper or satin ribbon

Create your own Chinese new year lanterns ! A Great DIY Craft to do with kids for Chinese lanterns.

 

Method:
  1. To make paper lanterns, take the cardstock paper and cut into two pieces of 5 inches and 6 inches each. Now apply some glue on the corner of the 5-inch paper and roll it forming a cylinder shape.
  2. Now take the 6-inch piece and begin by cutting down the long side of .5 inches and set them aside.
  3. Next, fold the sheet of paper in half to form a long and skinny rectangle, as shown.
  4. Draw pencil marks as a guide to make sure you don’t cut all the way to the edge of the paper.
  5. Open it up, and place the cylinder over the sheet.  Apply glue to both ends and paste it around the cylinder shape as shown.
  6. Now take the .5 inches paper strip and glue it as a lantern handle.
  7. Use washi tapes or satin ribbon or any colored paper strips and paste it over the lantern to decorate it, if desired.
  8. That’s It! Hang your paper lanterns from the ceiling, or place them on the table for a colorful and festive centerpiece!

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Suja Dinesh Raising World childrenSindhuja Kumar is a proud mom and a lifestyle blogger living in Connecticut, USA and origin from Tamilnadu, India. She is happily married and nothing excites her more than being a mom. She blogs to keep herself sane, more or less writing about positive parenting adventures, DIY Craft tutorials & scrumptious recipes that empowers every mom and woman to stay inspired and living an elegant life in a creative way. Check her work @ PassionateMoms.

Valentine's Day Themed Art By Kids

Valentine’s Day Themed Art By Kids

We bring to you beautiful pieces of art by kids of Mayur studio who under the watchful eye of Neelima Ganta create masterful strokes in art.

Neelima Ganta is the Owner and Artist of Mayur art studio. She enjoys painting with Acrylics and passing on the tradition of color to her students so they can carry a love for the arts within them.

Each student has created an imaginative piece around the theme of Valentines day showing that love translates differently for different eyes.

You can check out more Neelima’s work on on the website for her studio – Mayur Studio . She is open to creating new pieces and selling commissioned art as well as teaching your child to create their next masterpiece.

Don’t forget to send your child’s creation to us at contact@localhost. Submission guidelines can be found here.

How Marrying Outside My Religious Culture Enriched My Life

How Marrying Outside My Religious Culture Enriched My Life

Being born and brought up in the holy city of Varanasi (India), ideally should have made me a lot more religiously inclined than anything else. Thanks to my  parents, I got to see the fun aspect and beauty behind the cultural practices than the pressure to feel religious!

Growing up in a Bengali household,I spoke Bengali at home, ate Bengali cuisine, enjoyed literature the likes of Tagore and Ray.

Through cultural events like “Poush mela”, “Sahitya sammelani”, film festivals, where Bengali literature, cinema or music was brought into discussion, my parents made sure I got my dose of cultural learning from time to time. And through festivals like “Durga Puja”, “Kali Puja” or “Saraswati Puja”, I understood the pattern of worshipping the divine and enjoying other important elements, to the likes mentioned above!

BENGALI CULTURE IN VARANASI

From history to modern day implication of community living and socializing, Bengali pujas are a lot more than showering love and dedication to the gods and goddesses.

Right from my childhood, I have understood that these are ways of enhancing and sustaining large social groups through some common parameters of fun and festivities! They are the opportunities to learn about our cultural heritage, in our wide agenda of social networking! And they work phenomenally well!

Growing up in Varanasi, which is primarily what my parents called a non-bengali city, also exposed me largely to the city’s local festivals and religious practices as well. With festivals like Holi, Diwali, Sankranti, Shivaratri etc., I sensed the religious fervor and flavor of the locals. Since, my mother was a devout Hindu, I got to relive this different  side of Hinduism as well.

However, in this largely proclaimed Hindu city, my exposure to other religion, their festivities or their cultural understanding was less.

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MEETING MY HUSBAND

I met my husband (a Sikh) during my growing years, yet I hardly understood what it was like living in a Sikh household. I was too young to grasp the dynamics of life and living in one!

When my marriage was being discussed, my family inadvertently made me look into the implications of marrying a Sikh (almost as if I was marrying an alien).

It was my irritation, coupled with forced curiosity of sorts that made me learn a few details of Sikhism. From food, clothing, culture, music to religious practices and festivals, I decoded a few details. For instance, covering the head, while preparing kada prasad( the customary wheat halwa at gurudwara) even when it is at home and getting it touched by the kirpan. Food is  an important element in daily life and needs to be well balanced, music goes beyond yo-yo-Honey Singh etc.

I studied a little bit of all. However, without demo, theory doesn’t sink in. Hence, I realized a lot more about the cultural norms, including certain customary practices and a lot more only through marriage.

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PARENTING IN A MULTI RELIGIOUS HOUSEHOLD

When my kid arrived, the religious implications seemed larger. Suddenly, I felt responsible for thrusting whatever was my understanding of my culture (both mine and my better half’s) on him. I realized he was as much a Sikh as a Hindu. It was with his arrival that I felt the need to consciously practice the non-Hindu part of him with great gusto.

Now, I feel the need to connect to people of Sikhism, so as to understand living and loving the world, from another perspective. And all this, so as to be able to teach my son the brighter and beautiful aspect of seeing the world from two unique lenses.

Now after some eight years of marriage, if someone asks me how much of a Punjabi have I become, then I can say with some confidence that I have reached at least 50 per cent of the space. Till then, I will consciously love, live and propagate it in the life of my child, so that he becomes aware of his roots

Besides these two religions, due to frequent relocations and travels, I have been and again, not-been-a-part of so many cultures that I feel that now I’m a true blue cosmopolitan. This is what is helping me break my social barriers and reach out to make new friends across all cultures and religions.

Similar should be the kind of world for my son. He should not label himself as a Bengali or Punjabi, but a multinational, who is able to connect, accept and embrace everyone, irrespective of any religion or ethnicity.

HARMONY IN LIFE

My marriage, although was seen religious retardation of sorts (as per some of our wise relatives), yet to me, it has been a source of religious harmony in my household. I love being a Bengali as much as I love being a Punjabi, but when it comes to plain social networking, I don’t feel the need to look beyond the humane aspect of one’s character.

I wish to bring this advantage to my son. We consciously celebrate all festivals, help him participate in the customary religious and social events from different cultures and communities (not just Bengali or Punjabi), help him interact with people and enjoy their cultural differences (by way of food, religious practices etc.) and much more.

His unique genetics should aid him in breaking social barriers across all ethnicity and that is what I intend to do with some conscious social skill building exercises. I’m so thankful for all my marriage brings to my life.

What is your marriage story? Share in the comments below. I love hearing other’s stories of love. How did LOVE enrich your Life ? 

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  A freelance creative writer and blogger for the past 7 years, Malvika Roy SIngh writes about subjects like travel, food, lifestyle, health, interior designing, real estate, digital entertainment, media and marketing, education etc. Her parenting blog helps her be a conscious parent (www.wipmom.com) When she is not writing, she can be found either running or playing with her 4 year old son enjoying time reading. She resides in Hyderabad and can be reached at mroysingh@gmail.com

How Valentine's Day Became My Every Day Why

How Valentine’s Day Became My Every Day Why

I was 18 and had been in an “on-again-off-again” relationship for a few years. On Valentine’s Day of my senior year, we were “off again.” I was bitter, sad, felt like a loser, and wanted to cancel the day altogether.

Until something shifted.

A few days before the big day, I got the idea to research the history of Valentine’s Day and St. Valentine. I wanted to explore deeper than the facade that Hallmark and Hollywood sell us. I was desperately searching for a way to turn my hurt and self-consciousness into something new and more beautiful.

While reading up, I came to the conclusion that Valentine’s Day is a commercially created holiday, and that St. Valentine likely wasn’t an advocate for only romantic love, but all love. I decided that Valentine’s Day is supposed to be about loving out loud, telling the ALL of the people I love that they are special to me, and celebrating the collective love for humanity.

 

 

I dug deeper than my pain and recognized that I had lots of love that I needed to express on Valentine’s Day (and beyond), and I needed a new way to connect, rather than disconnect in shame, sadness, and isolation.

This day couldn’t be about teddy bears, roses, and chocolate from a boyfriend or a crush. To me, Valentine’s Day needed to be an expansion of the definition of love and a broadening of who and how we love.

Thus, my next idea… I decided that it would be most meaningful to show love to people in our society who are often forgotten or overlooked: those experiencing homelessness.

I got my mom in on the whole idea, and we quickly got started making Valentines by hand with doilies, glitter, stickers, and markers; albeit still a bit commercial, handmade cards were a joyful tradition that my mom shared with me and my sister.

Along with each Valentine, we would hand out a treat. We decided on donuts.

 

 

On the morning of Valentine’s Day, mom and I drove downtown in my hometown, Albuquerque, New Mexico, to deliver little bits of love and sugary hugs to people who were living without a steady, stable home.

We received so many smiles and appreciations, and we ran out of supplies quickly. The sensation of being present with another, sharing a moment, and acting on the principle that everyone deserves love was powerful and transformational!

Again, something BIG shifted.

 

CELEBRATING VALENTINES DAY IN MY EVERY SINGLE DAY

From that February 14 on, Valentine’s Day became my favorite holiday. I’ve been known to host Valentine’s craft parties, my mom often ships me a box full of love and treats, and I often share about this memorable, perspective-shifting experience from my senior year of high school– my search for love and meaning in the world.

I must admit that I still partake in some of the commercial elements of the holiday, but my philosophy about the holiday comes from a place of authentic love, rather than expectation. This is what I hope to share with you and even more so with your teenagers who may be feeling pressured, depressed, expectant, or even excited about the stereotypical ideals of this holiday.

Over time, my love for the holiday grew, and I eventually named my commitment to live in love: Valentine’s Day Everyday, a movement.

 

 

What started as a desire to heal myself became one of my biggest WHYs– the reason I keep showing up and the reason I want to live another day: to notice love, to live in love, and to create love. Not just one day out of the year, but every day!

HOW YOU CAN MAKE EVERY DAY VALENTINES DAY

I’ve made it part of my life’s mission to tell people I love them. I’ve committed to noticing and observing love around me and appreciating it. Whether it’s a heart-shaped hole in the sidewalk, a lost and found love note, or witnessing a mother hugging her toddler, I want to know love.

And it’s not just the nicely packaged things that are love. It’s dropping my breakfast on the way out the door (when I’m already late), the basket of laundry waiting for me to fold it, and the meltdown my tween client is having that reveal what love is and teaches me how to love freely and fiercely.

 

Valentine’s Day Every Day is about looking at ALL experiences through the lens of love. Responding from a place of love and staying open to all forms of love.

 

I invite you to take on this mission and make it your own. How can you live each day as if it were Valentine’s Day for everyone?

 

 

WHAT YOU CAN DO  TODAY

Below are a few ideas that you might like to try as you get started on living Valentine’s Day Every Day:

  • Snuggle with your partner a little longer.
  • Pack an “I love you” note in your child’s lunch box.
  • Pay for coffee for the person in the drive-through behind you. Or the car in the toll booth line.
  • When you see something– a book or knick-knack or greeting card– that reminds you of a friend or family member, buy it for them. Don’t wait until a holiday or their birthday to gift it.
  • Hand out snacks or water to people who are experiencing homelessness.
  • Text a friend you haven’t heard from in a while, simply expressing what you love about them or sending a virtual hug.
  • Make a meal for a friend who has been sick or tired or stressed out.
  • Gift yourself the chocolate or flowers you look at with desire. You are worth it!
  • Write a love letter to a stranger!
  • Make a handmade card or collage for a friend or family member— just because.
  • Pick a flower and pass it to the next person you see.
  • Leave a positive affirmation somewhere where another person will find it– inside of a book, on a chair, on a signpost, etc.
  • Look for hearts in nature. (You’ll find soooo many!)
  • Write a poem for someone you love.

Have ideas? Go for it! Whatever comes up is authentic and real for you. Show that love to yourself, others, and the world.

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If you’re looking for accountability as you integrating this mindset into your life and your family, let’s chat! As a Child-Centered Coach for parents and teens, I work with clients to build their lens of love, and I would be honored to support you and your children on the journey. As an online Child-Centered Coach for Teens and Parents, Courtney supports tweens, teens, and young adults in finding their voice, growing confidence, and thriving. Through 1:1 and small group coaching sessions, teens and tweens are able to overcome anxiety, disconnect, and isolation as they discover their truest sense of self and develop a deep sense of empowerment. Courtney supports parents in self-care, growing alongside their children, and in developing balanced sensitivity towards the process their child is creating and offers an online membership for parents of tweens and teens. Sessions with both teens and parents guide families in developing the trust, communication, and connection that’s crucial for a life of ease. You can find out more about Courtney Harris Coaching here: https://www.facebook.com/courtneyharrisedconnect/ and https://courtneylynnharris.wixsite.com/mysite

 

 

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DIY Paper Heart Garland – 2 Different Ways

Have you started planning on Valentine’s Day decor yet? I think it’s just about time and  I decided to start with this super simple paper heart garland. Here I am going to show you two different methods to make your own garland. It only takes about fifteen minutes to make and it is a perfect craft for kids.

The little paper hearts garland can be hanged anywhere and it blends perfectly.  Most importantly this is a decoration you can use year-round for any occasion because you can mix and match any shape, colors, sizes and paper to create a festive touch.

DETAILED VIDEO TUTORIAL 

1. DIY Crepe Paper Heart Garland:

Supplies Needed:

  • Crepe paper
  • Pencil
  • Scissors
  • Glue stick
  • Satin ribbon or Twine
  • Glue gun

Method:

  1. Cut the crepe papers into small pieces of equal size. Bring together and fold it into the half.
  2. Using a pencil draw a half heart starting from the folded edge.
  3. Cut the crepe paper over the heart trace to make the paper hearts.
  4. Fold each hearts into half and paste it together placing one above the other using glue stick.
  5. Apply some hot glue in the middle of the hearts and paste the satin ribbon or twine in the center.
  6. Now paste the last piece heart with the first one so that the satin ribbon remains in the center of the joined hearts.
  7. Repeat the same steps until you reach your desired length of the garland.

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2. DIY Construction Paper Heart Garland:

Supplies Needed:

  • Construction paper or any color paper
  • Pencil
  • Scissors
  • Sewing thread

Method:

  1. Cut the construction papers into small pieces of equal size. Bring together and fold it into the half.
  2. Using a pencil draw a half heart starting from the folded edge.
  3. Cut the paper over the heart trace to make the paper hearts.
  4. Now carefully fold it as shown in the video. Make sure you don’t press it too much which might leave folded marks.
  5. Draw some patterns as you wish and carefully cut them out. You can experiment with different patterns on each heart.
  6. Open the paper heart and see the makeover you did for the paper hearts.
  7. Take a sewing thread and carefully string the paper hearts.
  8. That’s It!  Your valentines day decor is ready to be hanged wherever you like.

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Comment below and tell us what else you want us to try out next! Make sure to leave a lovely thank you to the creator. 

 Suja Dinesh Raising World children Sindhuja Kumar is a proud mom and a lifestyle blogger living in Connecticut, USA and origin from Tamilnadu, India. She is happily married and nothing excites her more than being a mom. She blogs to keep herself sane, more or less writing about positive parenting adventures, DIY Craft tutorials & scrumptious recipes that empowers every mom and woman to stay inspired and living an elegant life in a creative way. Check her work @ PassionateMoms.

Padmaavat - How It Reflects Our Society Today

Padmaavat – How It Reflects Our Society Today

Warning : Spoilers Ahead + Reader Discretion Advised. Movie age viewership recommended by Aditi 13+. All views belong to the author.

Padmavati, Oops, Padmavat (I still don’t have my head wrapped around the name change) is one of the MOST controversial Indian movies in Hindi there has been in the past decade. So much so, even BBC covered it. It was a sad state of affairs when it was being judged even before birth.

That is something woefully sad, but I won’t get into because I prefer that people be allowed to make informed choices.

Then it released. And received rave reviews. And then, I read Swara Bhaskar’s open letter to Sanjay Leela Bansali about how she felt the movie and I’m paraphrasing here so you do not have to read the whole letter – It wrongfully glorifies Sati (women self sacrificing to fire to avoid rape at the hands of plunderers). That women have a right to live even if they are raped etc. That since this movie based in ‘old’ times has been released in the 21st century there has to be in the context of today’s society. 

It is with this baggage that I saw the movie. 

Movie Synopsis

Set in 1303 AD medieval India, Queen Padmavati is known for her exceptional beauty along with a strong sense of justice and is the wife of Maharawal Ratan Singh and pride of the Kingdom of Chittor, a prosperous kingdom in the north west of India.
The legend of her beauty reaches the reigning sultan of Hindustan – Allaudin Khilji. The sultan who is a tyrant, is fixated with wanting anything that is of exceptional beauty for himself. He lays siege on the impregnable fortress of Chittorgarh. After a grueling 6 months, he returns empty handed. He becomes obsessed and now wants to capture Chittor and its Queen at any cost. He returns with a bigger army and ranging fury.
He attacks Chittor with brutal force and a bloody and fearsome battle takes places between the righteous Maharawal Ratan Singh defending his kingdom and the honor of his queen and Sultan Allaudin Khilji. Khilji manages to breach the fortress but in vain as the Queen chooses to make the ultimate sacrifice to protect her dignity
ps – The movie is inspired by a poem of the same name Padmavat. 
I found the movie in fact very relevant to today’s times with the subtle nuances it shows towards today’s society.  

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Narcissism & Materialism is Self Damaging

In the day and age of selfies and trending gadgets, this came off as most prominent.

With Allauidin Khilji constantly desiring every single thing that he considers is a “priceless  beauty” it is important to note how it reflects how greedy today’s society is. With every person lusting after the latest gadget it is a testament to the fact that wanting the best is a timeless human emotion and one when not controlled is harmful in various ways.

We Are Better Together 

The King of Mewar requests all the Kings around his own to help him. He tells his second in command confidently, that if we all get together then Allaudin will be destroyed instantly. But Alas! In the self interest of their own kingdoms none of the kingdoms come forward to help.

The problem is similar with our current society that we don’t do enough good. For the most part, we just talk behind closed doors about all that is wrong but when it comes to standing up for what is right, we fear for our self interest. And that is where time and again societies have been destroyed.

Love Transcends All

Padmaavati falls in love with another woman’s husband. Allaundin Khilji falls in love with the “idea” of Queen Padmavati who is another man’s wife.  Even Khilji’s slave is often referred to as his wife showing the undertones that he is in love with him but can never hope to take his place for the taboo in pace. It is interesting to note that Allaundin is never repelled by his subtle advances.

The heart wants what the heart wants. There is often not a single thing one can do about who you end up loving but how one approaches it is of immense importance. When love is meant to conquer, it will never win. Love has to be pure and quiet and has to ask permission often and worked hard upon.

You Have To Stand Up To Bullies In Their Way

Time and again Allaudin Khilji tricks the King of Mewar into falling into a trap eventually killing him even. Which begs the question. When rules are put into place, are you supposed to follow them blindly?

No matter what your ‘culture’ has been, if what is being asked of you or if you see the person in front of you is doing wrong, you have to put your foot down at some point and retaliate in the similar manner so that they understand what is happening.

I thought, it was a great tip of hat to current Bullying scenario that is rampant among kids. When faced with a bully, being good should not be a major concern.

People Need To Stop The Back Biting Already

Most girls (many men) do it at different stages in life. And it is down right malicious and needless. This is brilliantly shown by King of Mewar’s first wife. When her husband is taken away, she tries to manipulate the second wife into a situation where she is gone forever. Trying to prove to everyone that ‘she was the problem’. And when proven wrong, refuses to accept.

It is a sad state even today that many people are not above manipulating each other for no good reason other than self interest, which eventually does back fire. And manipulations are often under the drape of friendship.

Let’s empower each other. Let’s be mature and converse, even if it means not talking with issues known.

Women Can and Should Stand Up For Themselves

Now coming back to what Swara Bhaskar said. Johar or Self emulation I’m sure is a trigger for many women who feel strongly about it. And that totally depends on the person watching. In the movie’s time period context, she knew she was at the end of the road. And that was just something women did at the time. The movie is not about Sati. It is just about good people trying to maintain their dignity despite repeated trials and failures.

Not everyone chooses to sacrifice in times of desperation. Not everyone chooses to “live now and fight later”. Not everyone accepts that concept of ” sacrificing the one over the many’. Not everyone chooses to “follow their fearless leader to the end of time. ” It is a matter of choice. And there is no debating that. Flight or fight is a very personal response.

The ending for me in fact, was too drawn out. I didn’t find it dramatizing or even glorifying Sati. Just a factual representation of the times. Unfortunate as it was. I found the ending anticlimactic. What I wanted to see instead was Allaudin Khilji’s disappointment devastating him. That would have made a bigger impact and honestly, maybe even satisfied the women who were disturbed by the end since the actual sacrifice would have had a visual consequence.

What I did enjoy however was in the end, where all the women attack him before he can get to the place where they are doing Sati. They have a strategy. They have a plan. They band together to take on this enemy. And it is that what I wish our girls of tomorrow learn from us women today.

That they are equal to every man. What they may lack in strength they may make up in strategy and bravery.

About The Movie Watching Experience

Being bad is fun …. till it isn’t !

“Nice guys finish last.” ” These are the ways of the world.” Quotes like this have always irked me. . are all just things people say to not participate in standing up to what is right. If anything this movie glorifies Ranveer Singh’s portrayal of Allaudin’s Khilji which is so totally on point that you are left aghast at what phenomenal acting he has done. It is rare to see a real good bad guy.

The movie is certainly poetry in motion and one is mesmerized by the grandeur of each scene. Every actor plays their part well. It is a movie that one has to have watched once in their life time in 3D in the theater to appreciate the subtle intricacies of every scene and dialogue. 

So all in all, I would say, like 13 Reasons Why was a Hard watch for parents and families, I think if watched with parents, this movie too provides an opportunity for conversation about many relevant things.

And if you are a history buff like me, you will enjoy learning the real history behind the poem of Padmavat –  Queen Padmaavati. Careful! One read on a historical figure is never enough.

Have you seen Padmaavat ? What is your take on the movie ? 

Not unlike 13 reasons why, Padmaavat gives an oppurtunity to discuss with your older kids what is wrong with society | Family conversation

  Aditi Wardhan Singh is a mom of two, living it up in Richmond Virginia in USA. Raised in Kuwait, being Indian by birth she has often felt out of place. A computer engineer by profession, she is now a freelance writer and entrepreneur having founded Raising World Children. Impromptu dance parties with her little one are her ultimate picker upper. She provides tools to open minded parents to empower their children to raise positive, gracious, global thought leaders. She currently writes for the HuffingtonPost, Thrive Global, RMB and is author in “When You Are Done Expecting ”