5 Interesting Attributes of Mangalorean Catholics in India

5 Interesting Attributes of Mangalorean Catholics in India

Christopher Managlorean Wedding

Easter was celebrated worldwide on April 16. This Christian festival, which is actually holds more importance than Christmas, marks the resurrection of Jesus Christ three days after his death by crucifixion at the hands of the Romans. It also marks the end of 40 days of Lent, which is a period when Christians have a religious obligation to fast, pray and observe penance.

Estimates peg the number of Christians worldwide at more than 2.2 billion. Of these, around 27 million are Indians. Yours truly happens to be one among them.

Christianity in India

The history of Christianity in India is almost as old as the history of Christianity itself. As per ancient Indian Christian tradition, the religion and culture surround it was brought to India by Thomas the Apostle around AD 50 in a region that now forms part of the Southern Indian state of Kerala. It is also said that another Apostle, Bartholomew, disembarked on the western coast of India and spread Jesus’ message.

The number of Christians in the southern state of Kerala who practice the Syrian Orthodox doctrine of Christianity is evidence of the fact that India is home to some of the earliest Christians in the world.

However, Christianity in India spread significantly between the 16th and the early 19th centuries, when Portugal had colonies in India. Erstwhile Portuguese colonies in India, including Goa, Daman, Diu and Dadra & Nagar Haveli, and even Mumbai are known to be home to large populations of native Christians even today.

Between the 16th and early 19th centuries, Portuguese Missionaries, with the support of the Colonists, were able to convert hordes of natives in their colonies to Christianity (Roman Catholicism to be precise).

It is worthwhile, however, to know that not all of these conversions were done in the right attitude and spirit on the part of the Portuguese Missionaries. In fact, there are many stories of natives being coerced, sometimes with the threat of violence or attachment of property.

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History of Mangalorean Catholics

I happen to belong to a family of Catholics who originate from the Mangalore district of the southern Indian state of Karnataka. After a lot of reading and discussions with older generations in the family, I learnt that Mangalorean Catholics were originally inhabitants of the Portuguese colony of Goa.

Apparently, they had migrated out of/fled from Goa at different points in time for reasons ranging from the Portuguese Inquisition in Goa (circa 1560), the occurrence of famines and epidemics and political upheavals/wars. It is interesting to note that most of these Mangaloreans religiously held onto a lot of their Hindu/native Indian customs and traditions.

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Language and Dialects

Although the younger generation prefers to speak in Hindi (the national language of India) or in English, in traditional Mangalorean Catholic households the language spoken is Konkani.

Konkani is actually the language used by Goans and has a lot of Portuguese influence, but the Konkani used by Mangalorean Catholics is heavily influenced by the South Indian languages of Kannada and Tulu. Also, interestingly, the Mangalorean Konkani is written in Kannada script.

Bilingual Names

Traditional Mangaloreans will always have a Christian or a European name, and also a native/Indian middle name. For example, my full name is Christopher Roshan D’Souza. My brother’s name is Ravi Vincent D’Souza. You will also find a tradition of pet names like Pedru for Peter, Ijju for Isabelle, Mettu for Matilda, Gibba for Gilbert, Panchu for Francis, and so on.

History of surnames

Mangalorean Catholics bear Portuguese surnames. This is because our Goan ancestors assumed the surnames of the Portuguese priests who baptised them when they were converted, or their Portuguese godparents.

Hence, you will find surnames like Furtado, Pinto, D’Souza, Pereira, Gomes, Coutinho, Fernandes, and so on in the community. But prod the elders in the community a little and they will tell you the Indian surnames of their ancestors – Prabhu, Shenoy, Nayak, Pai, Kamath, Shet, and so on.

Christopher Mangalorean Wedding

Wedding Rituals

A Mangalorean Catholic Wedding will initially look like a European White Wedding in the Chapel.  Later, you will see Indian rituals like flowers being used to adorn brides’ hair, brides being draped with traditional red Indian bridal sarees (known in the community as ‘Sado’).

Bridegrooms tying Mangalsutras around their wives’ necks, farm produce like pumpkins, rice, betelnuts, coconuts, etc. being exchanged between families, and many others.

On the evening before the wedding, a ceremony known as ‘Ros’ is organised. This is for both the bride as well as the groom by their respective families. A symbolic purification and anointing is conducted by way of applying coconut milk on their heads, hands and feet – this is like a traditional Hindu ‘Haldi’ ceremony.

There is also a ceremony at the end of the wedding reception known as ‘Opsun’, which is similar to the ‘handing over’ ceremony called ‘Vidaai’ that Hindus practice, wherein the bride’s parents symbolically hand over their daughter to her in-laws and request them to treat her as their own daughter.

Warding off Evil Eye

There is a very Indian concept known as ‘the evil eye’. There is believed to be a curse cast unknowingly by a malevolent glare. It is believed that it can be caused either when someone looks at you with evil intentions, or envies you, or sometimes even when someone is extremely fond of you.

It is believed that receiving the evil eye will cause misfortune or injury. Traditional Mangalorean Catholic households follow the traditional Hindu way of warding off the evil eye with the help of salt, red chilli peppers and some exotic Indian spices.

These interesting trivia are merely the tip of the iceberg as far as the community is concerned. 

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  Christopher Roshan D’Souza is father to a 3 year old boy. By profession, he has a Masters Degree in Finance. He is working as a Research Analyst with a reputed global data and insights company. In an alternate life, he is a blogger who loves writing poems and short stories. He has a keen interest in music across genres, is a football fanatic (Arsenal FC fan), and is currently learning to play the guitar. He also loves trekking to hill forts and photography. Christopher likes to describe himself as a Jack of a few trades and a master of some, and as an introvert who loves appreciation yet hates being in the limelight.

Twinkle Toes - Shanmathi

Twinkle Toes – Shanmathi

Twinkle Toes

Once upon a time in the night, there lived a beautiful little shining bright star named Twinkle Toes. She had a father named Sam and a mother named Cassy. When the time Twinkle Toes was born her mother  & father loved her name. Twinkle Toes loved her name.

One day Twinkle Toe went to her school for the first time. Every one had a name tag. Everyone’s name fitted on the name tag except Twinkle Toes. Lots of people were making fun of her.

When Twinkle Toes went home, she cried a lot. She said, “Why is my name so long everyone is make lots of fun of my name.”

“Your name is perfect”, said the mother.

” Go to school again and lets see if they make fun again”, said father. Twinkle Toes went to school.

The next day they went to music class and in the music class. She asked the teacher her name. She said Chrysanthemum. It hardly fit on her name tag. It hardly even fit on her name tag. When everyone saw her name they never made fun of Twinkle Toes again.

Then Twinkle Toes loved her name again.

 

  I am 8 years old. Live in Texas. Going to third grade. Interested in writing stories, singing and dancing. Love to play with friends and family. I wanna became teacher.

 

 

 

 

 


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Pros & Cons of Parenting in a Joint Family

I grew up in a nuclear family set-up with my parents and my sister, as did most of my friends. Living in Mumbai, this was the only family set-up we knew. In modern India, especially in urban cities, joint families are as good as extinct. The only exposure I had to a joint family was the over-the-top portrayal in Hindi cinema – the rose tinted view of large families living in grandiose havelis, women perpetually dressed up in sarees and family jewels, men doing business together, children running about and playing together and everyone getting along splendidly, so much so that they would often break into song and dance together.

Getting married into a joint family, I was faced with the reality of living in this set-up, that as wonderful it is to have a large family, there are innate complexities involved as well. It requires adjustment and compromise to maintain a fond relationship with every member of the family.

As I soon as I had adjusted to living with my husband’s family, it was time for me to embrace motherhood. And raising a child in a joint family, especially in modern India, comes with it own pros and cons.

What I love about raising my child in a joint family:

Read the pros and cons of parenting in a joint family. Extended families are amazing, but they have their pitfalls too.

 

Support System

They say it takes a village to raise a child. The biggest advantage has been having a strong support system around, both in terms of having ready and eager babysitters, as well as getting emotional support when the going gets tough. When my son got high fever in the middle of the night, when the house help doesn’t turn up on the day I have to rush for an important meeting, I know I have trustworthy support to reply on.

Bond with Relatives

It is heartening to see my son forge close ties with his grandparents, great-grandparents, aunts and uncles. He has a unique special relationship with each of them. He is probably closer to his grandparents than I was to mine and this is a bond that I am sure he will cherish for life.

Impact on Social Intelligence

Having so many family members around of all ages has had a positive impact on my child’s social skills. Very early on he learnt the importance of sharing and respect for elders. He has always been social and is not uncomfortable in new surroundings or among large gatherings

Cousins are First Friends

They say cousins are our first playmates and friends for life. Though my son is still the first of the children in his generation, I look forward to him having many cousins around to play with.

Keep the Traditions and Languages Alive

Having elders around has been an enriching experience for my son. He is exposed to and values age-old traditions, something I would not have been able to impart to him. More importantly, I am happy that he is picking up our mother-tongue Sindhi which is sadly a dying language and one I am not speak myself.

However there is always a flip side to every coin.

Balance of Different Schools of Thought and Parenting Ideologies

Having multiple people means multiple ideologies and parenting styles. Sometimes our way of thinking is seen as too modern. Few religious customs we chose not to follow caused tension in the family. It is always a fine balance maintaining relations without hurting someone’s sentiments and yet being able to raise our child the way we want to.

Losing Control Over Discipline

We all know how grandparents pamper their grandchildren. It is beautiful to see my son getting so much love and affection, yet it becomes difficult when I need to lay down the rules. When he is not getting another cookie from me, he knows his tears will work with his grandparents.

I even had to relax my rules on no screen time before 2 years because I could not expect my in-laws to switch off the TV every time my son was around. So how do I deal with this loss of control? Sometimes I just accept that this is going to happen and the pampering it is part of their special bond. But at times my husband and I need to stand our ground, especially when health is concerned. At such times, it is best to openly communicate our concerns and try to get everyone on the same page.

It is all about choosing which battles are worth fighting over and which ones are best to let go.

Mahak Wadhwani is the author of “Diary of a Baby – Candid confessions of a baby from 0 to 2 years” and blogger at Baby & Beyond. An Engineer and MBA, Mahak spent 8 years working in business and technology consulting, before jumping off the corporate ladder and landing headfirst into a life of pooplosions, 3 a.m. feeds, teething and toddler tantrums – a life so exciting that she realized she just had to share her journey with the world. She writes about her parenting escapades, with a focus on gentle and mindful parenting techniques, mother and baby products, age-appropriate toys, books & activities and health & wellness.

You can connect with her at:

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Birthday Gift Card - Sanjith Vijay

Birthday Gift Card – Sanjith Vijay

  I am Sanjith Vijay, I am 5 years old. I love to play with cars. I have a collection of cars of all models.

Doing something for our loved ones is one of life’s little pleasures. And it is so important that kids learn early this joy of giving, that multiplies when received. Imagine the joy of Sanjith’s father when he found this beautiful card made by this 5 year old for his birthday.

We would like to take a moment to wish his father many such wonderful fatherly moments all year round.

My Favorite character 'Dogman' - Aneesh Gosangari

My Favorite character ‘Dogman’ – Aneesh Gosangari

I am Aneesh Gosangari. I am 7 years old. I love the author ‘Dav Pilkey’ and I made his fav character on canvas DogMan !!! I decided to paint my own favorite things to put on my room’s wall. I love legos and writing comics too.

Aneesh is a brilliant boy who surprised his mom with this poster. They were looking to buy some posters to put on his room he said “Please don’t waste money to buy those stuff. I will do my Favorite thing so that you can put on wall in my room!”

Needless to say, Aneesh’s parents are super proud of their son, his creativity and thoughtfulness.

We thought its nice idea!!!

Dogman:

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Snowman - Adidev Sreehari

Snowman – Adidev Sreehari

 

 My name is Adidev Sreehari. I am 6 years old. I like to draw and read about dinosaurs, whales, and planets. I like to make stuff with play-doh. This is a short story I wrote about Snowman. 

A Story About a SNOWMAN:

It was a cold snowy day. I woke up to see white everywhere. I shouted snow. I ran outside and made a huge snowman. I named him Leo. Suddenly Leo opened its eyes and started talking to me. I was surprised. ‘Hello,’ he said. I want to go to the Arctic. Are you coming? I said no. Leo said goodbye to me and started walking all the way to the Arctic to see sea creatures.

Leo got excited and jumped into the water. He saw seals, penguins, sea lions and killer whales. Suddenly he saw a leopard seal coming towards him. Leo escaped to a hiding place. To his surprise, he found another snowman also hiding there. They both together managed to get out to the surface of the water. And they became friends and lived happily ever after in the Arctic.

 

 

 

Ramadan - A Time for Reflection, A Time For Community

Ramadan – A Time for Reflection, A Time For Community

prayers at sunset during ramadan at Raising World ChildrenRamadan – the holiest month for Muslims around the world; the month when almost two billion Muslims around the world abstain from food, and water from dawn to dusk. The days when they dedicate their time to piety and prayer. Muslims believe that it was during this month that the Holy Qur’an was first revealed to Prophet Mohammed (Peace Be Upon Him).

It is the month of peace and forgiveness. While abstaining from food and drink is possibly the most visible aspect, that isn’t all there is to it. Muslims believe that the rewards reaped for acts of worship, and other good deeds, during this holy month, are multiplied. A large number of Muslims also participate in the special ‘Taraweeh’ prayers in the evening.

It is believed that one of the last ten nights of Ramadan is Lailatul Qadr or the Night of the Decree. During this night, the first few verses of the Holy Qur’an were revealed to Prophet Mohammed (PBUH). This night is considered to be a night of blessings, and forgiveness.

That is just an introduction to what the Holy month means to Muslims from a religious standpoint. What I would like to talk about is the cultural significance of what Ramadan means to me?

Observing Ramadan in Childhood

As a young Indian Muslim growing up in the Middle East (Bahrain, to be precise), Ramadan was a time of joy! Of caring and sharing. It was a time for families and community gatherings. It was a time for worship, and learning. It was exhausting – oh, yes! Absolutely! But also immensely rewarding.

Almost a month before the Holy month began, we would start cleaning the house. It was pretty much our annual spring cleaning. As the days got nearer, we would start making and freezing dishes which can be prepped easily. My mom would start chanting religious prayers and songs – songs which I can recall easily to this day – many years after I have left home.

The best part about being in a Muslim country is that it is around you all the time.

The malls and streets are decorated and lit up with crescent moons, lamps and stars. Ramadan Kareem billboards are everywhere. The Azan (the call to prayer) is heard loud and clear five times during the day. People don’t eat or drink in public, and almost all restaurants are closed  till the fast opens each day – in respect for those are fasting and well, because it is the law.

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I remember days when we had to climb up our three flights of steps after school, at around 2pm, lugging our incredibly heavy school bags. After a long day at school, we would be famished! But we still had a few hours to go. Watching some television, doing homework, or playing were the activities while we were really young. As we became teenagers, and then adults, the role – in the hours that led to Iftar – was about helping mom in the kitchen, and setting up the table.

At the dusk prayer, we would all sit together, and break our fast as a family. Starting with dates – as Prophet Mohammed (PBUH) has been recorded as suggesting – and water, we then jump into a feast.

As adults, we obviously know that Ramadan is about anything but food – but as kids, food was one of the things we looked forward to the most during the days of fasting.

ramadan fast breaking treats

The common dishes on any Malayali Muslim’s table would be – the semolina kanji or the lentil kanji, Tang – usually the orange flavor, some fruits and a variety of typical snacks.  The snacks ranged from the sweet – pazham pori (Plantain banana fritters), unnakkai (plantain banana missiles stuffed with sweetened coconut filling), Sweet Ada to the savory – samosa, cutlets, fish ada, prawns ada, erachipathiri and so on! Ah! My mouth is already watering.

Community Spirit

There were also a number of Iftar gatherings across the country. Not just family gatherings, but also organized by various associations and clubs like the Indian Club, and the Bahrain Keraleeya Samajam (and others – but these two I am extremely familiar with).

Many of these saw the participation of a large number of non-Muslims. I have listened to the sermon of a Christian priest, and the teachings from a Hindu pandit, as well as Muslim imam at the same gathering. I was and am always amazed at how people come together for a celebration – while fully respecting the religious values and ethos of those who are fasting. Such gatherings are extremely important – and as children, it helped us learn values of diversity, of respect, and of humanity.

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Garangao

Another very interesting celebration during Ramadan – usually the fourteenth day is known as Gergaoon or Garangao. Children dress up in traditional outfits, sing traditional songs, and go from house to house collecting nuts or candies. An Arab version of trick or treating, one can say.

I have had the pleasure of participating in a few of those celebrations in Qatar (as an adult though), and I just cannot wait for my son to grow up. Big halls are set up with multiple booths for children’s activities, reading, coloring, traditional games, photobooths, it really is an experience in itself.

Celebrations Today

ramadan fireworks

Even as child, and now as an adult, there is one thing every one always looks forward to – the end of Ramadan – not because it brings the end of fasting but because it brings Eid! The Eid at the end of Ramadan is known as Eid Al Fitr.

Of course the days leading up to is busy – the prayers being the most important element. And shopping for new clothes, putting henna on our hands, and one more round of house cleaning.

ramadan mehendi

Once the moon has been spotted, and Eid has been declared, my mom would start reciting the Takbeer (a prayer chant) loudly at the house, and we would join in too. All this with uncontainable excitement about the next day.

On Eid Day, we would wake up nice and early for the special morning prayers which happened around 6am. Across Bahrain, there would be Eid gaahs (special grounds set up for community Eid prayers), or we would just go to the grand mosque.

Eis was really about family and community. And as kids (and even now for me 😛 ), there is an added bonus of (hopefully) getting Eidi. A token sum of money that children used to get from elders! We then go out and visit relatives, and of course there is some biriyani involved! And get Eidi from them as well.

Now in Qatar, we make it a point to go for the fireworks show that is organized every Eid. In India, it is a very common practice to have fireworks at home. I used to love celebrating Eid in India because of that!

But Eid is the Middle East is extra special – like Christmas probably is in the West.

Schools are closed for three days. There are decorations and festive bill boards everywhere. The entire country celebrates it – doesn’t matter if you are Muslim or not, expat or local, child or adult! Eid is a celebration for every member of the community! There is definitely celebration in the air.

With Eid coming up soon, I wish you a blessed Ramadan Kareem and an exciting enjoyable Eid Mubarak! Do share your experience of the Holy month of Ramadan.

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Dilraz Kunnummal  is journalist, public speaker, dancer, explorer, and mum to a cheeky one-year-old. She has a decade of experience working in the media industry across India and the Middle East. Her portfolio includes being the editor for a women’s magazine, heading a business publication’s editorial team, running a corporate newspaper, and producing radio shows for a channel with 45 stations across India. A lifelong expat, Dilraz loves learning more about different cultures and traditions. Her goal as a mom is to raise a child who knows empathy, kindness and compassion, while also being confident of reaching his own potential whatever that may be. Dilraz often pens her thoughts on mother hood, and life with her family on her blog, mommydil.com
Raising Funds Through Art with Kids

Raising Funds Through Art with Kids

Have you ever considered encouraging your kids’ creativity for the good of others?

Mayur Art Studio owner Neelima Ganta did just that with the kids in her classes. She got together all the kids work and helped raise funds for the ASK Childhood Cancer Fund.

Every week in Central Virginia, 1-2 kids are diagnosed with cancer. Kids like Caleb. ASK Childhood Cancer Foundation’s mission is to make their lives better by providing Assistance, Support and Kindness when kids and their families needs it most. ​​From the moment of diagnosis, through treatment and beyond. You can help too. Click here to find out how. 

Neelima Ganta created an art show at the Tuckahoe public library. At the event, her many students and she herself proudly displayed their works of art for the benefit of the ASK Cancer Fund. You can find out more about Neelima, her art and the classes she provides here. 

  Neelima Ganta is an Indian born and raised artist, currently residing in Richmond, Virginia USA, is a certified Art instructor.Her artistic progress began as a child as she grew up in a family of Artists. She began picking up in various kinds of arts and crafts since she was 6yrs. Though she did masters in fine arts she preferred to say she was self- thought. Her art is characterized by vibrant colors and bold composition. Most of her works are with acrylics and oil paintings but will enjoy working with other mediums like Oil pastels and pencil and Charcoal also.

Celebrating the Cultural Diversity Across India

Celebrating the Cultural Diversity Across India

India has often been recognized as a country of unique and distinct culture. India has many languages, religions, music, dance, foods, architecture, etc. which differs from its state to state. The Indian culture is an amalgamation of several cultures and has been influenced by the Indian history.

The diversity of Indian culture can be seen under the following heads.

  • Festivals

The Indian culture can be best observed during the festivals. India, being a multicultural and multireligious country, it has several festivals to celebrate. The popular Hindu-religion festivals like Navratri, Ganesh Chaturthi, Dussehra, etc are celebrated with full zeal and excitement. However, the way of celebration changes from state to state. Navratri is being celebrated in the western part of India by playing Garba-Raas and Dandiya, while the same is celebrated in the form of Durga Puja in Bengal which is an Eastern part of India. In North India, Navratri is being celebrated by worshipping and keeping fasts for the Goddess Durga throughout the nine days.

Apart from the Hindu festivals, India also celebrates Eid-ul-Fitr, Eid-ul-Adha (Bakri Eid), Baisakhi, Guru Nanak Jayanti, Christmas and Easter with the same spirit in its several cities. Festivals make India united with different cultures.

  • Greetings

Indian culture is very famous for its greeting manner. ‘Namaste’ is the term which is used to greet people when they meet. This term is derived from Sanskrit which means ‘I bow to the divine in you’.  However, this term gets changed a bit while moving from state to state. This includes Namaste/Namaskar (Hindi, Odia, Marathi), Namaskara(Kannada), Namaskaram (Telugu, Malayalam), Vanakkam (Tamil), Nomoshkaar (Bengali), Nomoskar (Assamese), Aadab (Urdu), and Sat Shri Akal (Punjabi).

These greetings or the salutations are used at the time of depart as well. This shows the respect.

  • Clothing

Clothing pattern of India varies from state to state but usually preferred and prominent style includes sarees for women and dhoti kurta or dhoti pyjama for men. Here Indian culture seems to be different in a way of draping saree. However, there are many states in India where regional preferences of clothing are observed. These preferences are observed due to the climatic conditions and the physical activities of a woman.

Apart from the clothing style, Indian culture also differentiated based on the make-up of Indian women, like bindi, bangles, sindoor(vermillion). Sindoor is a red or orange colour powder which is applied by a married woman after parting her hair. The application of sindoor is a traditional Indian culture.

  • Cuisine

India is rich in its spices and so in its cuisine. From Kashmiri mouthwatering Rogan Josh to Tamil Nadu’s Dosa and Uttapam, from Gujarati Dhokla to Kolkata’s Maachh-Bhaat (Fish curry and Rice) all are worth to taste. Indian food has a vast variety and variations. The taste and ingredients change its preparation style also while moving from one state to another. Indian cuisine is the best cuisine around the world as it has a blend of flavours and a feel of food.

  • Parenting

Parenting is also an important part of our Indian culture. The raising up of a child also varies from region to region. Despite having variations, the Indian culture always teaches Life values, Discipline and the importance of family support while raising the kids.

If we talk about the variations in parenting styles in India, we will observe that the parents from East India (Bihar, West Bengal, Odisha, and many others) are bit introvert and over-protective in nature. However, they provide better food and manners to their child. On the other hand, parents from western states of India (Goa, Maharashtra, Gujarat, etc.) are quite extrovert and modern in their thoughts. The living standards are generally high which affects the parenting style too. The parents from the southern part of India strives majorly on education and cleanliness, while the parents from northern parts of the country give more focus to health and diet.

The diversity of Indian culture has inspired many people. Although the concept of Indian Culture’ is complex and complicated, still India has unity on its diversity.

Have you been to India? What struck you most about Indian culture?

  Lives with a notion “SIMPLE LIVING, HIGH THINKING” and have an optimistic approach towards life. Always eager to learn new things. She is founder of a Parenting website called “Budding Star“.

 

 

Help Your Kids Develop a Positive Body Image

Help Your Kids Develop a Positive Body Image

Did you know that 30 million people in the U.S. suffer from eating disorders? And every 62 minutes, a person dies as a direct result of an eating disorder? There is a higher mortality rate from eating disorders than from any other mental illness.

After reading these statistics, I feel incredibly fortunate that I am part of the 60% of people who recover from eating disorders.

My eating disorder started rather innocently. It was the end of my second year of college, and I had started to focus more on exercising and eating healthfully to combat the dreaded Freshman 15. It didn’t take long, though, for my health kick to become an obsession, partly because I have an all-or-nothing personality, and partly because I struggled throughout college with low self-esteem.

I attended the best university I got into, a smart move in some ways, but not necessarily an easy one. From the first week I felt overwhelmed by how smart, talented, attractive, and socially skilled all the other girls were. Was I smart enough? Pretty enough? Funny enough? Talented enough? Would I ever be enough? These questions plagued me.

Once I started exercising obsessively, I found a way that I could be enough. Maybe I wasn’t smart enough or pretty enough or cool enough, but I could definitely be thin enough. That was one thing I could control. At that point, it seemed working out and eating as little as possible were the only ways I could feel really good about myself.

I kept up with those behaviors for about nine months before finally confronting the problem and admitting to myself that things had spiraled out of control. I don’t think it was a coincidence that I called my mom to admit my problem to her minutes after she had finished a nine-week prayer that I would recover from my eating disorder.

Over time, I did recover. The patterns of thinking lingered for years after that initial recovery, but I got much better. And once I became a mom, I recovered fully.

A mom to three girls, I feel immense pressure to help them develop a positive body image in the hopes that they will not fall into the same trap that I did. Early on, I researched ways of fostering a healthy body image and developed a few key rules:

1)      Focus on qualities other than their appearance. I try to avoid overemphasizing aspects of their appearance, particularly their body shape. I had always been slim, and having people comment on how lucky I was to be slim made me feel like I had to maintain that shape to be liked. I try to focus instead on what their bodies enable them to do.

2)      Avoid making comments on your own appearance. I decided early on to eliminate all the negative, body-related self-talk we women tend to participate in. I’m not perfect, but I try very hard to avoid making comments like, “I shouldn’t have eaten so much,” or “I feel fat.” I just don’t even want that kind of thinking to be on their radar.

3)      Avoid commenting on other people’s appearances. It isn’t helpful to make comments about how skinny or pretty another girl or woman is, even if you’re talking about a celebrity. Instead, I try to focus on interior qualities or personalities. And if a celebrity makes a point of being photographed without makeup or airbrushing, I help them see that most celebrity photos aren’t realistic.

4)      Help them find activities they enjoy and are good at. Any activity a child can do well helps develop confidence and self-esteem.

Parenting is tough, and even if we do all of the above, we may not be able to prevent eating disorders or any other problem our kids may have. As with most things, paying attention and engaging in open dialogue can be extremely beneficial. And, as I learned from my own experience, prayer doesn’t hurt!

Use these basic tips to help your kids develop a positive body image.

   Catherine Brown is a freelance writer and mom of three who can be found at writehappy.net. Together with Christina Tinker, she is developing a book of stories by people who have recovered from eating disorders to bring hope and peace to those currently affected by eating disorders. If you have a story to share, please fill out the submission form: https://richmond.citymomsblog.com/eating-disorder/stories-can-change-lives-bringing-hope-struggling-share-story/

 

 

 

For Every Daughter Entering Adulthood

For Every Daughter Entering Adulthood

Every parent wishes their child to be a lot of things. But what happens to a parent’s emotions when their child becomes an adult?
Here is a beautiful poem written by a mother for her daughter as she hits that beautifully adventurous age 21.
Ok, Let’s have that adult-adult talk today.
Have a dream and follow it.
Have a purpose in life and fulfill it.
Have empathy and be empowered!
Do Everything with passion.
Do only what feels right in your heart
When you follow your dreams,
people may laugh at you
Just ignore them and keep going.
Then they start talking behind your back,
Show off and Vested Interest are the weapons they use,
Just overcome those and fly high!
 
 
Never talk behind anyone’s back,
Be truthful to all,
and be straight on their face.
Be open with your feelings to all,
Some may hate you for the time being, but that’s ok,
They may come back to you eventually.
Some may hate you forever, which is ok too,
Because they don’t deserve you anyway.
 
 
Never break anyone’s trust in you,
Always hear both sides of the story.
Value experiences more than money,
The money will come and go,
But the experience you made will stay with you forever!
 
Never trust anyone blindly.
Have friends who inspire you and lift you up!
Set standards, expectations and goals for yourself,
Once you realize who you are, reveal your true self to the world.
Then you look around and see that boy with admiration, respect and love in his eyes for you,
Hey, that is your partner girl! (BTW mom got lucky very early though)
Fly high like a kite and stay grounded at the same time.
 
 
Always remember,
Nothing is the end of the world,
You have always a place to fall back,
Your family is always here for you,
Enjoy life one day at a time.
  Mrs.Menon always exceeds the expectations of an average math teacher. After attaining an MA in Economics, a BS in Math, and a California Certified Teaching Credential, Mrs. Menon has worked various jobs in the educational field. Throughout her career, Raji has branched out from the ordinary roles of a teacher and dedicated her life to not only teach math but to reach out to youth and help each individual become a civilized member of the community. Mrs. Menon is the entrepreneur of her own business, Gurukulam , which derives from a thriving after-school enrichment center, where she teaches math both in-class and online, an active blog (http://rajimenon1.blogspot.com), and a social organization which participates in numerous projects for the less fortunate.

 

 

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How I Connected with Jesus Through My Art

How I Connected with Jesus Through My Art

Time stood still. I had driven under a bridge in our home city and I had prayed, “Lord, if you are really real, please guide me to know you.”

At that moment I cried out to God because I couldn’t understand my purpose here on earth.

Don’t get me wrong – my life was great. We had a loving family. We attended a church with some “friends”. I had been treasurer of the growing church plant. I had taught Sunday School. We had enough money to be comfortable. I had enough time for some recreational pursuits.

But I had this ache inside. An emptiness. So I prayed that prayer.

And God led me. I found a new church home with loving caring, encouraging friends who wanted to know the real me. I attended their Bible study – I had gone to Bible studies previously but I didn’t feel comfortable.

I even made this stipulation to my new friends:

“I will attend your study if I don’t have to hold hands, I don’t have to pray out loud and I don’t have to share about myself.”

They accepted me. Loved me. Cared for me. They let me ask questions and patiently answered them.

I questioned. I really questioned. I read books.

Then I tried to read my Bible – failed.

Tried again  – failed.

I bought another version of the Bible – failed.

My mentor friend said: “Why don’t you ask Jesus to open His Word to you.”

I tried again and the light started to penetrate.

But I still, even though I “prayed in Jesus’ name”, I didn’t know Him. I started to have some head knowledge of Who He is but I still couldn’t believe in my heart.

Such a doubting Thomas was I.

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One day, on the prompting of my spiritual mentor friend, I asked Jesus to reveal Himself to me. It was early morning; I was sitting in my chair in my family room. All was quiet. As I asked Jesus to reveal Himself, suddenly I felt this “whoosh” come over me and I dropped to the floor. I felt His presence so strongly. It overpowered me with a peace and understanding. And I said, exactly what Thomas said: “My Lord and my God”.

That was the beginning of my journey – almost 20 years ago. Since then I have had such a wild, crazy ride.

Some of the highlights:

I wrote daily in a journal while I studied the Bible.

I wrote 150 poems.

That led me to attend Christian writers’ conferences.

And over the years I occasionally took some art classes.

I studied early every morning.

I listened to God. I woke up and saw everything around me.

I wrote, illustrated and published two children’s books. (http://www.janiscox.com/bookstore/)

I went on a mission trip to Poland 5 times.

Hope Stream Radio asked me to podcast for them and I have done over 120 podcasts.

I grew in my knowledge of God. I grew in my knowledge of His Word.

I grew in knowing Who I was.

And I am growing still.

Never stopping. Always changing.

Right now my faith is as strong or stronger than ever. Each day God teaches me something new. I can’t get enough of His Word or His Voice.

The one thing I have learned more than anything else is to LISTEN to Him.

That takes practice, patience and perseverance.

And I have led my own Bible studies since that first hesitating time. And I do hold hands, I pray out loud and I share and listen to others.

My art has expanded because I always pray before I do anything – including art. I paint pictures, make greeting cards and do Bible Art.

Now God is telling me that my purpose is to lead and guide other Christian writers in their faith and their writing.

This is my new walk. And I don’t know what it will look like. I am a work in progress.

To that end I am working on a free Bible journaling course.

And I have a free PDF for studying the Bible called The SIMPLE Method of Bible Study.

 

 

 Janis Cox Raising World Children  Janis Cox is a creativity catalyst with a heart to connect people to God. She specializes in creating art based on Scripture so that the Truth penetrates hearts and not just minds. The world needs more pictures, art and colour. God speaks through our creativity. We connect deeply with God through creativity because it is play. Our doubts fall away. We become like the little children that Jesus invited to Himself. Janis helps people play, connect to God and connect to each other. She gives honest simple reminders to remain rooted in Him. Janis lives in Haliburton, Ontario Canada with her husband and their small dog, Snowball. Besides writing and painting, Janis podcasts for HopeStreamRadio. She can be reached at Janis Cox.

 

 

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Lori Isenstadt - How to prepare for post partum

How To Prepare for Post Par-tum

 

 

MEET LORI ISENSTADT – LACTATION CONSULTANT IBCLC

  1. What exactly it is that you do? 

As a lactation consultant, I spend my days helping moms with all issues related to breastfeeding.  I use my expertise and meet with moms and their babies to help them overcome breastfeeding challenges they are experiencing.  I am the host of the popular itunes podcast called – All About Breastfeeding where I interviews moms about their breastfeeding experiences.

2. How did you come about this passion/profession? 

I became a “birth and breastfeeding junkie” shortly after the b irth of my first baby.  Unhappy with my birth experience, I began learning all I could about pregnancy and birth.  I soon became a certified childbirth educator and quickly moved further in my career and became a birth doula.  Loving the art and science of breastfeeding, I became a lactation consultant in 2001 and have been helping moms with breastfeeding ever since.

3. Tell us about your family. 

I am fortunate enough to be part of a big family of 5 kids.  I am the middle child with 2 sisters and 2 brothers.  My husband Alan and I have 3 beautiful kids who make us proud every day.

4. What do you think are three biggest struggles most new moms go through philosophically (just to make people aware of new mom problems)? 

I find that the biggest struggles moms go through are:

  1.  Trying to keep up with the Jones
  2.   Feeling guilty they are not doing enough.
  3.  Figuring out ways that they can make time for their own personal growth and still be there for their kids.

5. What are 5 ways a new mom can help herself ?

 

  1.  Reach out and connect with other mothers in her community.
  2. Check out your local library and see what is offered  in the childrens section for you and your child
  3. Get out of the house each and every day.  Take your baby for a walk.  Begin with just 10 minutes and gradually stay out longer.  Weather not good?  Dress properly and just walk from one end of your block and back.   Go out into your backyard and walk back and forth, smell the fresh air.
  4. Put a plan in place so that you know you will have a good dinner at least 4 nights a week and the other nights can be leftovers.
  5. Try hard to not be too shy to ask for help & to tell loved ones exactly what it is you need.

6. How do you think friends can help new moms best? (gifts / etc )

When offering help, be specific in what you are willing to do.

Anytime you come over – be prepared with a healthy meal OR be prepared to listen to her

Anytime you come over – call first – say you are going to the “xyz” store and can you pick up anything for her.

If you feel mom is shy and won’t ask for anything – ask her husband or mother what they think she would like – don’t guess or get something that you would like – make sure it is s omething she wants.

Chip in with a few friends and pay for a house cleaner.

8. Do you have any resources for our readers ?

All About Breastfeeding free handouts on the early days of breastfeeding and working and pumping:

Ebook-  New Mother’s Survival Guide –  Practical tips for the new mother

Check out more videos from other parenting experts here.

Celebrating All Things Motherhood in Richmond May 5th. Click Here to Learn More .
Games to Teach Kids the Art of Poetic Dusting

Games to Teach Kids the Art of Poetic Dusting

When I first decided I was a writer it was in the third grade. Sister Mary Donald taught us Language Composition by drawing sentence diagrams on the chalkboard and making us memorize the 35 prepositions.. About, Above, Across, Around, At… but she also taught us the magic of creating images and emotions through poetry.

I loved words and how I could manipulate them in a way to transpose reality in a line of poetry. Even though my first poems were only in song-song rhymes and very poorly written, I pursued with poetry as a means to escape my world of adolescence. Of frizzy hair and freckles and brown Catholic school uniforms and of the chaos that comes of house with five children.

Poetry helped me to grow, to learn about myself and my world. Poetry helped to move me  as well as stay grounded when I needed to.

When I have a new writing workshop of fresh faced middle schoolers, I like to start with poetry, as well. They kinda freak. Poetry is scary to most. We have this idea that it needs to be high-brow and deeply meaningful and seems like it should only come from well-educated scholars or philosophers. But that’s so not true. First off, Dr. Seuss? Hello? And how about Shel Silverstein?

Silly, made up words that add rhythm to the page can also give different meanings and different points of view. Poetry is all around us: in songs, as symbolism in advertising, in art and on the page.  

How can you add a little dusting of poetry to your child’s world?

Here are some of my favorite poetry games and exercises. They’re fun, easy and impactful. You can practice on your own, but it’s so much more fun to learn and write with your children:

Word War

Poetry begins and thrives on a love of words. But not ordinary everyday words: computer, car, pencil window, latte. Unique and rarely used words: thump, thistle, prickly, ginger, hobble. I play a game with my students to get them warmed up to new words and get them to say the words out loud. It helps to listen to the rhythm and cadence of the spoken words and to link or disconnect meanings.

We go around the circle and each person has to shout out the first word that comes to mind. I will veto their selected word, though if it seems pre-planned or shadows the word the writer next to them just shouted.

For example, if the first writer says kitten, the next writer might shout soft or fluffy or whiskers. Though on their own these words are good warm ups, I’ll veto them because it’s common to think of soft, fluffy or whiskers when someone says kitten. Now, if the next writer shouted “pepperoni” after kitten, I’d be pleased and we’d continue around the circle. Try it! Write down the words that really spark an interest.

Teach your kids how to make poems from their imagination. Play word games for poetic fun.

The Answer Squash (inspired by Susan Wooldridge’s book, Poemcrazy)

This exercise can continue naturally from the word war or stand on its own. It can be a short five minute lesson or one that scales an entire season. Susan Wooldridge likes to name inanimate objects. Giving a smooth, empty gourd a title makes it more interesting, The Answer Squash, for example, came to be when she placed the words Answer Squash on a hollowed out gourd that sits on her shelf. What the heck is an “answer squash?” Maybe it’s like an organic take on the Magic 8 Ball. Maybe it’s just random words strung together and taped to the outside of fall decoration.

Try it:

Find words, whether handwritten from your word war session or cut from magazines, printed from digital pinterest boards, even using the magnetic poetry kits will work here. Tape words to objects around your house, your office, your room. Perhaps on the bathroom mirror you would find “Vanilla sky” Reflection, mirror, glass compared to sky,  compared to the sweet soft flavor of vanilla. How might that connection insight a poem? Maybe “energetic muse” would be attached to running shoes. Running creates or releases restless energy, right? Muse often comes when we get outdoors. Do you see how this works? No real rules! Which is the freedom of poetry, that artistic license, if you will.

Name Poem

A simple poem that your kids have probably already tried in school is the name poem or acrostic poem, Writing down one word or phrase that begins with each letter of their name, but also describes their personality or interests. Here’s an example:

Silly, stretchy, stressed out easily

Animated, animal lover, action movie fanatic

Music maker, mover and a shaker

I Am…

“I Am” is another favorite of mine and pairs wells with the acrostic poem from above. It’s a great insight to your child’s mind and how they think and feel about themselves. Try it:

Collect words from each category and plug them into the template, below, to create beautiful, lyrical poetry:

landscapes: mountains, rivers, meadow, tundra, caverns, etc.

action/movement verbs: twirl, flip, flop, spin, saunter, glide, etc.

colors: acqua, magenta, tree frog green, watermelon flesh, elderberry

nouns: zipper, square, cloud, linen, basketball, custard.

Now, combine, drop them in Mad-Lib style.

So, in this example template:

I am a  (action verb)  (landscape) , (action) (color) (noun).

You might get:

I am a twirling tundra, flipping acqua clouds.

Practice looking for, listening for and reciting words and poetry often. Magic will infuse your world with just a light sprinkle of poetry throughout your day.

And,next time you’re intimidated by someone reciting Whitman from memory, whip out your Energetic Muse running shoes and tell them how you are a twirling tundra.

Have fun with these? Try your luck at a kids-only, free-to- enter writing contest: WriteTheWorld-for Young Writers (new contests, themes and deadlines, monthly!) Be sure to read the Contest Rules.. https://writetheworld.com/competitions/upcoming

Mary Jo Campbell lives, writes, reads and breathes in Downers Grove IL. When she’s not coaching the next generation of young writers through in person and online writing workshops, she’s raising a few boys, a few dogs, a husband and the will to keep attending kickboxing classes. You can find her site and sign up for a free 30-page eBook of Story Prompts here.

You are welcome to send your kids creations to us here for our KIDS CORNER as well. 

How to Get Your Kids Curious About Science

How to Get Your Kids Curious About Science

 

MEET TORY CHRISTIE – SCIENTIST & AUTHOR

 

 1. What exactly it is that you do?

I am a Research Scientist, in geology and hydrology. I study water quality in lakes and streams. But, on the side, I write books for children. Most of my books have a science theme, so these two professions really work well together.

2. How did you come about this passion/profession?

This is a tough one. I found that I did well in math when I was growing up, although I really didn’t know what to do with that. I went to college to study International Management, but then I took a geology course and that is when I realized how much I enjoyed science.

3. Tell us about your family.

I came from a large family just like the McCarthy family in my Curious McCarthy series. A lot of the funny situations from my childhood were the inspiration for those books. My husband and I have three kids. We live in North Dakota.

4. What do you think are three biggest struggles parents today face when teaching their kids about science?

First, I think a lot of parents today aren’t comfortable with science themselves, so they are not sure where to start. Just start with being curious. If your child has a question, google together or look it up in a book.

Second, I think a lot of people have the misconception that only the smartest people can do science. But that’s not true. The best scientists are those that are open minded and curious, not just book smart.

Third, when looking at books, some kids just aren’t interested in non-fiction (although many of them are!). This is part of the reason I chose to write a fictional series about a young scientist. We don’t always have to be so serious. Kids can laugh at the jokes and funny situations and learn a little science at the same time.

5. What are 3 ways a parent can make sure a child imbibes science in their day to day lives?

First, encourage curiosity! About everything. The kitchen can be your lab. Do you ever wonder why apples turn brown once they’re sliced? Or why ice melts? Do some tinkering in the kitchen.

Each book in the Curious McCarthy series has a simple experiment that can be done with items you’ll find in most homes. Second, get outside! Kids are naturally drawn to nature. There is so much to see and do. Try starting a garden.

Third, go get some fun books at the library. Make sure some of these have characters that your children can use as role models. Don’t forget to visit the fiction section, too. There are lots of ways to combine literature with science. For example, have your kids make a map to represent the setting of their favorite story.

Watch more videos from experts to help your kids be thought leaders.